Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:26pm
No.
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:27pm

I didn't say that I think it is important that both parents are taking care of the children equally.

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:28pm

Thanks for the explanation,

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:30pm

<<I didn't say that I think it is important that both parents are taking care of the children equally.>>


Good then we agree because I didn't say anything about that either.


<<I think that either parent is better than a dcp.>>


Yes, so you have said.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:32pm
Why? Because I heard WAY too many stories lately about the same thing? Too many people are going through divorce now that I know and it is depressing.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:33pm
I could care less what they do. You should know about debating, I am just taking what she is saying.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:35pm
Communication is HUGE in marriage. I am sure you know that. I might not know exactly what my dh is talking about either when he talks about work but I do care what he is doing at work and why he is working late. His job is not just his paycheck.
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Registered: 10-04-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:36pm

You made a very good point.

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:39pm
Does your sil and sister help while he is at work or while he is home?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:41pm

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PumpkinAngel

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