Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:05pm

"I don't know the exact reason he works late it his job. I don't know why he puts in the long hours I don't really care he goes to work likes what he does and brings home a check that we can live on, why do I care why he works late.-Post # 445"

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:05pm

ah huh.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:06pm

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Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:07pm
See I dont have any family around to help.
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:08pm
Oh I kwim on that one, we usually don't understand or even want to understand each other's spefics at work. I just mean in general purposes why he works long hours. I posted a list of possible reasons in another post. Something like, he really has that much work to do because there have been cutbacks/layoffs, he wants to get ahead & he feels he needs that much face time at work, his field of work requires long hours (like a lawyer or if you need to be in the office during hours other than 9-5 because of needing to talk to people in other timezones) etc. I think there are a number of reasons. I think it's odd that someone wouldn't have any idea about why their spouse needed to work long hours. I'm not going as far as Hazel is though to say there is a problem with their marriage etc.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:11pm

Still not answering my question.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:13pm

They have time with their Dad, yes in a perfect world neither of us would have to work, but I think it's better to be able to have at least one parent home if that is possible.


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Shari mother to

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:14pm
my kids have always done so many things with me that doing things with others is never a problem for them - they like to do things, who they are doing them with doesnt seem to matter.
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:18pm

I worked pt, opposite dh when our kids were small and it was great for dh relationship with the kids. I agree that the time without mom around can be a very good thing for dad.

Robin

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:20pm

I mean I know what his profession is, I know the company he works for,

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