Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:43pm
No, my dh comes home because he knows that I need help and that he wants to be with his family. We speak many times during the day so I know what is going on with him and if he will be late and why. I do the same for him.
With seeing so many marriages fall apart over the years, I have learned that you need to work at being married. You need to be involved in all aspects of your spouses life, even if you don't understand them-lol!
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:43pm
You were insulted by the comment because you thought it was directed to you.
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Registered: 10-04-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:44pm

Why is me telling him five is late enough a problem?

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:44pm
Sorry.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:47pm
You said he used to work later than 5pm. I work 9-5, no later unless there is so much work that I am overwhelmed. Tomorrow is another day is our motto at work unless something is so dire.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:49pm

<<i don't consider sah a universal arrangement for all who can afford it.>>


So then why are you asking me?


<<i don't think all parents are cut out to be ah with their kids which traditionally,sahps spend more time doing..>>


Funny, that doesn't even come to mind when I think of sah.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:53pm

Still not answering my question?


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She said she doesn't know the exact reason,

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:53pm

I disagree you don't need to be completely involved in every aspect of your spouses life.

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:56pm

I believe this is another example of different experiences doesn't make something wrong or incorrect.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 3:56pm
I was just speculating. I don't know why my kids never liked gym childcare, but yes, I suspect it has to do with knowing the kids and teachers and being comfortable with the routines.

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