Parents and school involvement

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 5:02pm
There is no way I would call my dh that many times a day. I would be annoyed if he called me that often too. Maybe I have a bad marriage?;-)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 5:11pm

That's how it works here too.

Amy

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 6:13pm
I'm sure you can. But when you make judgemental statements about people preferring things to being with their children, your statements come across as rather nasty.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 7:52pm
I never call my dh at work, he calls me. He is on the road alot so he is able to call and he does call at work as his boss is fine as long as things are getting done.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 7:53pm
Why would you be annoyed? I enjoy talking to my dh and when we are home with the kids, it is hard to have a conversation until they are in bed so we are able to talk during the day and not get interrupted.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 8:25pm

it's nasty to insinuate that because i woh means that I didn't want to spend time with my children or (my personal fav) that dc is raising them.

Carole

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 8:42pm
and there are many wohps that are home earlier.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:21pm

Lol, sounds like a productive worker. Personal phone calls throughout the day and running for the parking lot at 5 o'clock!

Robin

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:23pm

Definitely sounds like you and dh have a communication problem. Do you have a lawyer, lol?

Robin

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:25pm
I know my job and what needs to be done. I can talk to my dh (for a big 3 or 4 minutes) AND get my work done before 5pm.

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