Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 10:45pm
Yes, because simply saying that CTWOHMS exist is ALL she's said. She didn't say they were not doing right by their children or anything.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 10:48pm
Wouldn't he have had more time with them if he bonded through play and bathing and diaper changing?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:02pm
Why are you only commenting on one of the things she mentioned? She very clearly said it doesn't apply to everyone, she was giving possible reasons.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:05pm
Who turns down time and a half anyways? LOL
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:08pm
My dad worked for Hughes, and the several companies it became later. :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:10pm
Because, every time we post, we are supposed to add a mini-biography at the end. That way, we aren't misleading anyone. ROFL.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:13pm
Are you saying she's not consistent? I don't get it. Throughout your posts, you seem to equate "consistent" with saying "Sorry, honey, we can't afford that."
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:14pm
Appease? What exactly do you mean by that?
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:43pm

I have to say I am a little disappointed. Many posters have been asking for a response to this for days. I thought strong conviction would equate to strong argument but it's not the first time I have been wrong.

We often arrive at day care around 3:30 - 4PM at which time my dd gets a little upset because she was just about to go play with her friends. She is not school-aged but I don't think that makes a difference.

Our area has camps for kids up to age 16. Maybe we are unique? Or is 16 IYO too young to start working? (I started at 15)

Your last one: "Having a sahp is universally better when a child is being abused or neglected in daycare."

What if the SAHP is abusive? I know this has been brought up already. The unfortunate fact is that children are not always safe and well looked after in their parent's care. Your argument really falls apart.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:47pm
Um... so? Are you saying that richer people are better?

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