Parents and school involvement

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 5:58pm

899 siad over an hour to prevent the well my kids go to playgroup an hour a week but every post has been 2-3 hours and you know it. but whatever......

i think preschool is important, i dont think preschool is necessary. but neither has been my point - my only point, once again, is that everything that is accomplished at preschool can not be accomplished at home - PERIOD

my 4 year old just does not have activities where he is meeting people i do not know other than preschool. he has church, i know all those people, he has my friends, well obvviously i know those people, other than those two places he does not have the ability to meet the same people 2-3 times a week for 2-3 hours at a time without me present - he is just too young, imo.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 5:58pm
Hey, that is a positive thing! That's good.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 5:58pm
I have three of them (but two did spend time in daycare prior to K. The oldest one did not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:02pm
but you said anything that could be taught in preshcool you could teach "at home" ballat class is not at home. you are saying she can learn to stand in line at ballet class, and yes, while not at preschool it is just another paid venue, not home.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:08pm
Why?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:10pm
I think the longer you don't accustimize yourself to something, the harder it is.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:12pm
I agree. I have no problem with this concept either. I don't feel any other people involved in my childrens's lives are replacing my husband and I they add more to their lives. To me more people loving you (the children) is hardly a bad thing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:20pm
I think she is saying you can't. Not you personally but no parent can. You cannot provide your child with the experience of being away from you when you are there. Physics really.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:24pm
I think the point was beneficial not necessary.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:25pm
No, I didn't say at home.

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