part-time or full-time work?

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Registered: 07-12-2007
part-time or full-time work?
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 12:32am

The time has come for me to go back to work. My DD is now almost 4 1/2 months old and, although she is young, I must go back to work for my sanity and because my family desperately needs the money. I don't really have a choice. If I want to eat, I must work. My DH's job does not pay enough. So I have been watching the job market for two months now and haven't found much. I have also started researching day care. I want to start off at part-time so the that my DD and I can get used to being apart and it isn't such a shock on either one of us since we have been together every day since she was born. But then I look at our bills and I ask myself if working part-time will really be enough. I don't want to work just to pay for day care. I need to bring money home to help pay bills.


So the question is, do I find a part-time job and pray that it is enough for bills and day care. Or do I start out at full-time and hope the separation anxiety isn't to much on me or my DD. Just the thought of being away from her for a day hurts but knowing we are hardly getting by on my DH's salary hurts just as bad.


What do I do?

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 12:57am
I had to go back to work full-time before my son was 3 months old.
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 1:02am

I am not only worried about my own separation anxiety from being away from my baby but I am worried about her as well. She has been with me for 4 1/2 months now and I don't know how she would react going straight into day care all day.


Do babies get a kind of 'separation anxiety' (did that make sense?)?

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 7:51pm
I went back to work FT and then switched to PT at 18 months.
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Registered: 10-13-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 9:07pm

You didn't mention what kind of work you are looking for but have you thought about trying to find work in a daycare? I have a friend who works at a daycare and she gets to take her daughter with her.. That way she is making some money and she doesn't have to leave her daughter. She does have to pay for a space for her dd but I believe she gets a discount. Not sure about that but it might be something to check into.


Or there is the option of working opposite shifts of your dh so you don't have to leave her at daycare with that extra cost and he gets to spend some time alone with her while you work.


There are always options out there and also good daycares, you just have to look around!
Good luck

Lori


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Lori

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 11:24pm

I was going to ask you what type of work you do? I am a RN so starting out part time and easing into FT would be possible but a lot of jobs don't have the flexibilty to do that? Are you in health care? Shift work? If so go for it. I was actually planning on heading back to work FT with my first pregnancy. At the 22 week US they told me I was having twins. I priced what it would cost for DC on baby twins and it was half my salary. I decided to cut back to part time and take care of my babies myself. DH watched them on the WE while I slept (I also work night shift - I get over 30% more for working nights).


I guess it depends on the flexibilty of your job. Most will not be that flexible.


Depending on what you do - is there a possibility to work from home. I know some moms work from home and hire a caretaker to come into the house and watch the kids while they work in their home office. It gives them the flexibility to take breaks to go to the park with the kids, eat lunch with them ect...


Tonya

 

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:56am
If you work part time opposite your husband and don't have to use daycare you might be bringing as much money home as working full time and paying a day care.