Paternity Leave

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Paternity Leave
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Thu, 04-03-2014 - 7:14pm

Big news on sports radio today seems to be about the fact that New York Mets 2nd baseman Daniel Murphy has chosen to take the three days alloted to him under his contract for maternity leave.

Some of the comments being made are about the fact that they should have induced labor prior to the season starting.  why does he have to be there he cannot breast feed and what is he going to do hold her hand for three days.

Thankfully not all commentators are being jerks and he is getting some support for his decision.

Stilll a double standard on the importance of father and also I think of husbands.   While paternity leave was not an opton for DH he did take up to two weeks of regular leave with the birth of each of our DDs and I am so glad that he did. 

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Thu, 04-03-2014 - 8:02pm

Ugh. Pigs. Induction really shouldn't be for convenience.

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Thu, 04-03-2014 - 8:06pm

just_another_marla wrote:
<p>Ugh. Pigs. Induction really shouldn't be for convenience.</p>

It's even worse than induction.  Those fatheads actually think the baseball player should have forced his wife to have a friggin' C-Section (!!!!) early to prevent him missing opening day. 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 04-04-2014 - 7:39am

Yes, that is correct  they did say c-section.  I was going on my memory and misspoke. afterall I am pushing 60. 

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 9:50am

Men are eejits.  Except Murphy. He's a good guy.  lol

Xh took several weeks with each kid. Not all at once, but a week right away, a week later, adn then I think a week when I went back to work.  It was paid as annual leave, but covered under FMLA.

Birth mothers obviously need more time - or it's more important - because they have their own medical recovery.  But it's just as vital and crucial that men bond with their children.  Not only crucial for that family, but for society.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 12:13pm
3 days? Good grief! In the homeland the norm by now is for each parent to take the 6 months allowed (paid). That way, kids can stay home till one and go to daycare at that point. I think it helps make the transition to parenthood smoother for everyone involved.
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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 3:27pm

emptynester2009 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:medium">Big news on sports radio today seems to be about the fact that New York Mets 2nd baseman Daniel Murphy has chosen to take the three days alloted to him under his contract for maternity leave.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:medium">Some of the comments being made are about the fact that they should have induced labor prior to the season starting.  why does he have to be there he cannot breast feed and what is he going to do hold her hand for three days.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:medium">Thankfully not all commentators are being jerks and he is getting some support for his decision.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:medium">Stilll a double standard on the importance of father and also I think of husbands.   While paternity leave was not an opton for DH he did take up to two weeks of regular leave with the birth of each of our DDs and I am so glad that he did.  <br /></span></p>

Crazy that he is being given grief over taking three days!

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 3:30pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
3 days? Good grief! In the homeland the norm by now is for each parent to take the 6 months allowed (paid). That way, kids can stay home till one and go to daycare at that point. I think it helps make the transition to parenthood smoother for everyone involved.

Sports are interesting in the US with leave, the players and managers (at least in MLB, which I watch on a regular basis) really don't much time off during the season.  Baseball is on from late February to hopefully late October with very few days off of playing games and today's professional athlete doesn't usally take off days off either.  It's a long and grueling season, thankfully the top guys make big bucks to compenensate but the lower guys, not so much. 

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 4:08pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>Men are eejits.  Except Murphy. He's a good guy.  lol</p><p>Xh took several weeks with each kid. Not all at once, but a week right away, a week later, adn then I think a week when I went back to work.  It was paid as annual leave, but covered under FMLA.</p><p>Birth mothers obviously need more time - or it's more important - because they have their own medical recovery.  But it's just as vital and crucial that men bond with their children.  Not only crucial for that family, but for society. </p>

I do not think that it is just about bonding with the baby but about the family sharing that major milestone in thieir life.

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 4:24pm

I remember back in the late 70s when watching a game and Steve Garvey was being called a dedicated player for being at the game even though his wife had a baby that morning.  I think it was the All Star Game.  

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 5:33pm

emptynester2009 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Men are eejits.  Except Murphy. He's a good guy.  lol&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Xh took several weeks with each kid. Not all at once, but a week right away, a week later, adn then I think a week when I went back to work.  It was paid as annual leave, but covered under FMLA.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Birth mothers obviously need more time - or it's more important - because they have their own medical recovery.  But it's just as vital and crucial that men bond with their children.  Not only crucial for that family, but for society. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p><span style="font-size:medium">I do not think that it is just about bonding with the baby but about the family sharing that major milestone in thieir life. </span></p>

Yep, agreed. 

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