Phone call from pediatrician

Avatar for karenester
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Phone call from pediatrician
8
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 4:37pm
Dh has the baby at the peds, because she has been running a fever since Sat am. They think she has a UTI, adn are running a culture that will be back in 48 hours. The ped gave dh all the necessary info on extr afluids, etc., and then he had her call me on his cell phone so she could talk to me.

She just wanted to go over the "extra fluids" and dosing amounts for tylenol and advil with me, since she assumed that I'd be the one up with her all night when she won't sleep due to being sick. I have never had a ped. call me at work to talk about the baby--they always have just assumed dh can deal with it all.

At first I was impressed she'd call me. Then I wondered why she didn't think dh would remember to tell me, or that dh would deal with it. Then I thought that maybe I hang out at boards like this too much.

She knows I bf, so it makes since she'd want me to know that we need as much fluid as possible in the next 48 hours. But would the pediatrician ever call dad at work to make sure he knw the prognosis?

Of course, you may be thinking the real issue here is that why am I at work letting dh deal with a sick baby? I guess I'm just a bad mom.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 4:50pm
Sometimes I have taken ill kids to the doctor, sometimes DH has. Never had the experience of a doctor calling the other parent.

Just reread your post.

"The ped gave dh all the necessary info on extr afluids, etc., and then he had her call me on his cell phone so she could talk to me."

Does that mean that she called you because your DH wanted her to?

Avatar for cindytree
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 5:13pm
Hope your baby gets better, and no you aren't a bad mom.

I understand your slight irritation that they called you even though your husband was right there. I'm a mom at home and people call here all the time to leave messages for hubby or ask me to ask him something because as they put it "I knew you weren't busy and I didn't want to bother your husband at work." If you're a bad mom then I must be a lazy one whom people assume has nothing more to do than lay on the sofa watching soap operas while digging the fudge chunks out of moose tracks ice cream. Ok, maybe I did that once when I was recovering from a knee injury...lol.

Let us know how your baby is doing.

Cindy

Avatar for karenester
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 5:35pm
No, dh was on the phone with me telling me what the ped said when the ped came back into the room, so he hung up to talk to her again.

She asked him to call me back so that she could tell me herself what the diagnosis was. I wasn't irritated, just interested. No doc has ever had me call dh so she could talk to him about one of the kids.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 5:45pm
That is weird. Your dh was *in the room* but the pediatrian wanted *him* to *call* you? Was your dh offended that the pediatrician didn't seem to trust your dh to relay the message to you? Did your dh want the pediatrician to talk *directly* to you so that nothing gets missed in case he forgets to tell you something?
Avatar for karenester
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 6:00pm
Strange, huh? Dh is there, with the baby, and the doc had him call me back so she could talk to me. He didn't ask her to call me. And trust me, my dh is not one of those "I'm an incompetant dad please save me from myself" types. And dh is always the one who takes her for her shots, etc., as he works from home and I have a 35 minute commute, so it is much easier for him to take her than for me. In fact, I've only met this doc once.

Dh wasn't upset; he was just amused.

Avatar for laurenmom2boys
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 7:45am
My DH has taken our boys to the pediatricians probably as much as I have. It depends on our schedules. And since DH is a medical professional, he usually understands a prognosis and treatment plan a lot better than I might simply because he *understands* medicine a lot better than I do. When DS1 was in the hospital at 19 mos. old, DH directed his treatment and approved or vetoed things the Drs. wanted to do. I would probably have just gone along with what they wanted to do, and looking back, some of it just wasn't necessary.
Avatar for biancamami
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 11:16am
I've had the ped talk to me while DH was there but he was the one that initiated the call...sometimes he gets flustered when she asks really specific questions so he just says "Let me get my wife on the phone...she knows that!"

But the situation you describe does sound strange!!! I'm sure the doc would NOT have insisted on talking to your husband if you had been there!!

Ana
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 1:12pm
I've had a similar experience.

We were taking the kids for either a check-up, or immunization, I can't remember which. I was working 4-9 shift, and dh was out at 4:00, so we did the ole' switcheroo tag team at the Dr.'s office. I took them in, and by that time, it was time for me to leave, and dh had to get the instructions, and meds, etc.

It was so obvious, and so comical. They all of a sudden began speaking v-e-r-y slowly to him, so he didn't miss a thing. Pointed out ON THE BOTTLE where the directions were. And ran to hold the doors open, after all, poor guy was solely in charge of three young children.

Dh was amused also, but what we BOTH found sad, was that they didn't seem to realize how condescending it was. To ME and to HIM.

Personally, if a man can't handle a Pediatricians visit, I don't want him. :O)

<a href="http://www.glittergraphics.us" target="_blank"><img src="http://mic.bpcdn.us/bpg0/a.gif" border="0" alt="Myspace Glitter Graphics, MySpace Graph