Places you won't take your children?

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Places you won't take your children?
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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 1:40pm
I have a mental list of places I will not take my child. I will get a friend, a babysitter or go during work unless it is an emergency.

They are:

1. To get my haircut

2. To go to my doctor

3. Weddings (unless directly invited)

4. Funerals (unless it is a family member and there are tons of family there)

5. Movies (my 6 year old gets to go now. My 21 month old is still too young)

6. My church meetings (circle and Bible Study)

7. I try not to take them together to the ped. alone. I will only take them together if my DH or my mother can help me. I took them last year when one had strep throat and the other had a double year infection. It was Dantes 7th circle of hell. I will never, ever do it again.

8. Concerts-we are going to a bluegrass contest and we will not bring the kids. We also went to Pearl Jam and left them at home.

Are there places you try not to take your children (excluding obvious places like bars)

K





"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 1:45pm
Shopping (except for them) and except for grocery shopping. Most restaurants. To a hospital. Any place after 8 pm.

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 1:54pm
Nope. (nt)

"There in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I close my eyes, feel their beauty and follow where they lead."

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:00pm
I think a few years ago, I would have had a similar list, but with an 8 year old, a lot of that stuff gets easier. Especially things like hair cutting (no problem with the 8 year old now, he just gets his cut at the same time). I also took ds when I had a mammogram and he is usually no problem when I have to take dd to the doctor. Now, the other way around (ds needs to see the doctor and dd is healthy) is pure nightmare and I usually either arrange for it at a time when dd is in dc or else dh takes her to work. I had one of those hell experiences and it was a nightmare! Otherwise (and in no particular order),

1) movies: ds got to go to his first movie when he was 7 and it is still on the edge of being too young for my taste.

2) Clothing shopping for me. I don't mind having the kids along when I am shopping for them or dh, but when I want to try stuff on, I want peace and quiet!

3) Evenings out to restaurants...I really want exclusive adult time then.

4) Book shopping for me: I love browsing and kids just don't have the patience.

Funny thing about the bars comment: about the only place in the entire city of Vienna that we could comfortably take our children were wine gardens ("Heurigen"). These are mostly open in the summer, have a lot of outdoor seating (usually near the actual vineyards used to produce the wine) and sometimes have a small play area. Vast quantities of wine is drunk by all (Beer is the only other alcohol served usually), so you would think it wouldn't be the most appropriate place for children. But in any other restaurant in the city, dogs are more welcome than children (literally).


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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:00pm
me neither

the circumstances of the trip mean more to me than the general location

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:01pm
Fun question. Here are my comments.

<<1. To get my haircut

I think this changes with the age of your child. I'll take DD (8) with me, and we both get cuts. However, we go to cheap fast places. I wouldn't take her to a fancy salon, or if I were having some lengthy process done.

>>2. To go to my doctor

I'd rather not, but I have done it and it wasn't a big deal.



>>3. Weddings (unless directly invited)

ITA. Even when children are welcome, I prefer to leave them behind if I have that option.



>>4. Funerals (unless it is a family member and there are tons of family there)

I agree.



>>5. Movies (my 6 year old gets to go now. My 21 month old is still too young)

I'll take them to kid movies, but not to anything that's not specifically geared towrds kids.



>>6. My church meetings (circle and Bible Study)

I don't attend church, but I wouldn't take them to other adult-oriented classes or meetings.



>>7. I try not to take them together to the ped. alone.

On this, I disagree. I always try to schedule their checkups together, to avoid two trips.

>>8. Concerts-we are going to a bluegrass contest and we will not bring the kids. We also went to Pearl Jam and left them at home

It depends. We usually take our kids to a local annual folk & bluegrass fest. It's outside, mid-day and early evening, and has kid activities. We don't take them to sit-down concerts or late night concerts. We just went to Phish the other night, and the kids stayed overnight with Grandma so we could have a late night. (But MAN do I feel OLD! All the women there were at least 15 years younger than me, and were showing off their perfect flat midrifs. Ouch!)

My own addition: upscale restaurants.

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:04pm
I took my toddler with me to Walmart to pick up a few things. I decided that I would try on some sports bras while I was there. What was I thinking? He threw his pacifier over the dressing room door and tried to crawl underneath to get it. I had him by his foot trying to get him back in. I had a dress on and I had to take it off to try on the sports bras. I was so frustrated! I could see this mental image of me runnning the aisles of Walmart nude shouting, "Alex-come back here. Now! Come back here!"

Clothes shopping should have been on my list.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:09pm
C'mon, I don't believe you'd take your kids to your ob/gyn visit.

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:12pm
Hey-I have a friend that takes her children everywhere. They are 7,5 and 3. She is pregnant and she takes them to her OB/Gyn visits. I have offered to watch them but she said it was no trouble to take them.

K

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:15pm
I took my oldest once at a monthly checkup so he could hear the heartbeat of his brother to be. I then took them both for the same reason when p-g with Jordan.

It really does depend on the circumstance.

Now I cannot imagine taking any of them for a pap... But I prefer not to think about pap smears too much.

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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 2:15pm
>>>C'mon, I don't believe you'd take your kids to your ob/gyn visit.

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My mom took us...why not?

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