Pleaes help me with my problem. I am sad

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2003
Pleaes help me with my problem. I am sad
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:00pm
I got married 2 years ago. Before I got married, I got a job as Database Support. As the IT field is going down, I got laid off and I couldn't find an IT job after that. Now I am looking for some other job as in the offie , but has no luck so far.

My husband is working, and he doesn't mind I am working or not, he can support me without me have to work. But recently he is worrying about me that I might go mental and crazy by staying at home. he is right. I also worry about myself too. He ask me to go out do something it doesn't have to be a job, just do anything like get out of the house meet people. somet type of activities. He is worrying about me I know, he is worrying about me getting bore, he always ask me like calls me from work and worry if i am bore or not. I always reply to him Is ok. coz i don't want him to worry about me too much.

Now my question to you and need your help is. What can I do now? What can I do to help myself out of the house? I actually want to work so much, I really want to bring some money into the house even thought I know I don't have to.

How do you think of my problem? I really want to do something too. I know staying at home is bore.

We haven't think of having kids at the moment, may be in 2 or 3 years.

Pleaes help me ...:(

thank you so much


p.s I am living in Toronto Canada

Edited 7/8/2003 3:22:03 PM ET by xiaobe

Avatar for tickmich
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:14pm
Get out of the house. Do volunteer work. It may not pay but it will feels good to help others. I previously volunteered at a nursing home and a soup kitchen.

Also, please see a counselor to discuss your feelings.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:34pm
Hi Xiao,

I'd say just keep looking...the more applications you put out the more interviews you'll go on --- which hopefully will lead to job offers! Perhaps you could try looking outside of the IT field. You could try working for a temp agency. Have you considered taking some college courses?

Good luck! :)