PMT - Hijack at will.

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PMT - Hijack at will.
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 3:33pm
An update on my marital crisis .. if anyone is worried/interested.

Things are improving a little. We're still headed towards a divorce; I'm filing next week for a Legal Separation. But, I was granted a leave of absence from my job for the summer. So, I"m going to be able to take the kids and go visit grandma and grandpa for a few (2? 8? 12?) weeks adn clear my head. Then I'll come back to AZ around when school starts adn get settle in a new house, etc.

This way, the kids will be near dad, so he can have ample involvement in their lives. They won't change schools, they won't be wihout their friends, and I'll keep my job. Adn I'll get the family support I need in the interim. If, after a year or two, I'm still significantly unhappy here, we might move back. But I *think* I can be okay here.

STBXH isn't fighting any of this. We're gonna go for a "marital separation agreement" which we do ourselves and sign instead of letting the courts/lawyers fight it out. I'll have a lawyer representing me, and he's just gonna have a lawyer review his stuff to make sure I'm not screwing him.

So, I"m in a little better sprits today. Am actually eating something for the first time in DAYS. And, although my marriage is over, my life isn't and things will be fine. It will take a while to heal, obviously, but now that I have a goal to work toward, I think I can handle it.

Anyhoo ... off to eat my fish and chips now.

Hollie

THanks for all the love and support radiating from you guys! It helps tremendously.

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 3:39pm
That's such a difficult situation but it seems like things are falling into place for you. I hope you have much brighter days ahead of you...

Good luck!

Ana
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 5:39pm
Sounds like you have a plan. Good luck. Things have a way of working out for the best.
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 6:10pm
Oh, crap, Hollie. I thought things were going so well...I'm sorry to hear about this. Good thoughts and strength coming your way!
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 7:36pm
Oh crap, mygriffin. I thought things were going so well too! lol ... guess stbxh didn't think so.

thanks for the thoughts .. and hey i actually smiled a few times today!

hollie

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 8:26am
Aw shucks Holli, I don't know what to say. Yeah, I do....

A) I'm glad your trying a seperation before you start divvying out the silverware.

B) I think the summer off from work and away will do WONDERS for your attitude, and your kids.

C) If this MUST be done, I think it's awesome that you BOTH are being so gosh darned mature about it!

Oh, and you can take comfort in the knoweldge that you at least TRIED to improve with counseling before you decided to split. I think there should be is a lot to be said for knowing you did all you could before anything permanent was done.

I'm proud of you, sad for you, but happy for the new changes coming up all at once!

Hugs and GREAT summer vibes heading your way!

Annie

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