disclaimer....Iam a sah mom
Is there no middle ground where you live?
When you were a child there were no divorced families or SAHMs and now it is all your DD knows.
Every where that I have lived there has been a combination of divorced/non-divorced families and WAH/SAH moms. The ratios may have changed a bit over the year but I have never lived in a world where divorced parents or WOHM did not exist.
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Yes, most of the kids my dd goes to school with and outside activities have divorced parents, parents who have been re-married or single.
That is very interesting.
In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that
My mom divorced in 1973, and more than half my friends were raised by working single mothers.
i have to wonder if what we general gravitate towards are likeness with friends then.
Yes, I am sure some of it is a "birds of a feather" sort of thing. For example, I know someone who sent her kids to Catholic school so they would not have to associate with children whose parents were divorced (not the only reason, but something she listed as a plus). For me, this really was not an important consideration, so nor was it something I looked at when picking a school for dd.
Some of it may also be ethnic, in the sense that you (general) live in an a neighborhood where most people are from the same ethnic background, which may be a background that favors SAH, for example.
Lastly, there is probably a strong economic/educational component, since neighborhoods tend to cluster people of similar financial and educational means.
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I don't know if this is unusual or not, but I have no idea what the marital status of most of my friends' parents were growing up. I think that since I had no experience with divorce personally, the thought never entered my mind as a child. If I only saw one parent, I probably would have merely assumed that the other parent was at work or simply not attending the activity. Not until high school do I have a specific recollection of friends with divorced and/or remarried parents.
So maybe it's partially a matter of confirmation bias? We tend to see more of what we're expecting to see?