Poor nutrition sah/woh issue?

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Poor nutrition sah/woh issue?
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 4:05pm

Is there no middle ground where you live?

When you were a child there were no divorced families or SAHMs and now it is all your DD knows.

Every where that I have lived there has been a combination of divorced/non-divorced families and WAH/SAH moms. The ratios may have changed a bit over the year but I have never lived in a world where divorced parents or WOHM did not exist.

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 4:27pm
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 4:30pm
We have been married for 28 years and I know lots of people who have been married longer than we have.
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 10:18pm
My mom divorced in 1973, and more than half my friends were raised by working single mothers. From what I have seen in family and friends around me, I agree with that link, it seems SAHM is getting a little more popular lately. Of course when my mom was first married SAHM meant you SAH to raise the kids, now it often means SAH for a few years until preschool, maybe first grade, only sometimes beyond that.

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 12:14am

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 1:00am

Yes, most of the kids my dd goes to school with and outside activities have divorced parents, parents who have been re-married or single.


That is very interesting.

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 6:38am

My mom divorced in 1973, and more than half my friends were raised by working single mothers.


i have to wonder if what we general gravitate towards are likeness with friends then.

 

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 8:26am

Yes, I am sure some of it is a "birds of a feather" sort of thing. For example, I know someone who sent her kids to Catholic school so they would not have to associate with children whose parents were divorced (not the only reason, but something she listed as a plus). For me, this really was not an important consideration, so nor was it something I looked at when picking a school for dd.

Some of it may also be ethnic, in the sense that you (general) live in an a neighborhood where most people are from the same ethnic background, which may be a background that favors SAH, for example.

Lastly, there is probably a strong economic/educational component, since neighborhoods tend to cluster people of similar financial and educational means.

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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 9:44am

I don't know if this is unusual or not, but I have no idea what the marital status of most of my friends' parents were growing up. I think that since I had no experience with divorce personally, the thought never entered my mind as a child. If I only saw one parent, I probably would have merely assumed that the other parent was at work or simply not attending the activity. Not until high school do I have a specific recollection of friends with divorced and/or remarried parents.

So maybe it's partially a matter of confirmation bias? We tend to see more of what we're expecting to see?















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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 9:48am
It's moronic, but it is real. We had a foster daughter for just over a year. She was 11 when she moved in with us and just over 13 when she moved out. When she came to us, she had no idea how to fix food for herself other than pouring a bowl of cereal. I made her learn some simple cooking skills, and believe it or not, it was a bone of contention between our family and her biological mother, who most definitely did not want her daughter learning to cook or helping prepare and clean up after family meals. Evidently women cooking is "demeaning" in some circles. Never mind that my boys have been cooking since before they went to school.

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