Practical or Philosophical?

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Practical or Philosophical?
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 12:24pm

Is your current work status (woh, sah, everything in between) because of practical reasons or philosophical reasons? Or a mixture of both?

What are they? Have they changed as your children have grown?

How much time did you and your partner take to make each of your work status decisions?

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 8:43pm

Is your current work status (woh, sah, everything in between) because of practical reasons or philosophical reasons? Or a mixture of both?

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 11:38pm

Both. Its both practical for us to have me work, and DH SAH, as well as "philosophical" in that we always agreed we'd have a parent at home. Its just practical for now, that its me working.

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 4:11am

Practical with some philosophy involved, but philosophy having to do with us, not with our role as parents. We were self-employed when dd was born, but at a cross-roads (we knew we needed to make more money than we were making, basically). So, we had the choice of either restructuring our business significantly or giving it up and each getting a "straight" job. We chose to focus on the business, because we thought that straight jobs would make us unhappy. It worked, thankfully.

Now that dd is about to be independent, we may reorganize again. It could mean that I go get a straight job in a few years (I would like to try it) and dh scales back on work and writes some books or whatever he feels like doing (he is an academic at heart).

ETA: As far as the time taken to decide, it has been an ongoing thing, oft discussed in some way or another.




Edited 7/1/2008 4:15 am ET by sild
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 10:22am

Is your current work status (woh, sah, everything in between) because of practical reasons or philosophical reasons? Or a mixture of both?


our situation (me SAH, DH WOH for himself) is more for philosophical reasons.

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 11:05am

I have mentioned this before. I had a similar discussion with DH when we were dating. I was like you, but he was more ambivalent about it (it was my choice not his) but definitely did not want to be a sahd. I told him that I was never ever going to be a sahm. One more piece of crow I have had to eat since becoming a mother.

I turned out to be much more practical as a mother, and as our family's needs evolved, I am very glad that DH or I can stay at home right now.

But again, were our circumstances different, I would probably be still be singing the other tune.

How is your summer going? Are you getting used to your new job responsibilities?

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 11:05am
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:58pm
Fine, thanks!

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:06pm

Is your current work status (woh, sah, everything in between) because of practical reasons or philosophical reasons? Or a mixture of both?


Both but I think it started out purely philosophical on my end. Now it's mainly about practicality and about doing the things I want to do with the kids(filed trips, class parties,being home with them when they are sick)


What are they? Have they changed as your children have grown?


Initially I wanted to SAH because I just knew it's what I wanted for me, my kids and my family. I still do but the plan I had for going back to work

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:19pm

They are doing well, DS1 started strings camp in your neck of the woods - today. He had alot of fun. Glad the job is working out.

The boys are not doing swim team this year (it conflicts with other camps and they weren't very gung ho). Our club dropped down this year- so it is not as intense at the meets.

DS2 had football camp last week and wants more- unfortunately the only other football camp nearby will be the same week as his trip to Goshen. However, we just found out the Falls Church will be having a flag football league can join!!!! Before thy closest ones were in Herndon or Springfield. We were very leery of the regular fall football here- it requires 3 nights a week for practices and all day Sat. or Sun for the games (which could be as far away as Gainsville-(ugh) for nine year olds for crying out loud. Plus there are not too many kindred spirit parents in that group (my Prius with the Obama sticker would not fit in).

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 5:15pm

Is your current work status (woh, sah, everything in between) because of practical reasons or philosophical reasons? Or a mixture of both?~~I chose to SAH, because I would be darned if I had to pay up the you know what for childcare, plus, it made sense to hubby and I that I stay home.~~


What are they? Have they changed as your children have grown?~~yes, all three of my kids will now be in full time school this september and I plan on working Mother's hours, otherwise I will be ripping my hair out, out of pure boredom.~~


How much time did you and your partner take to make each of your work status decisions?~~Not long, we both agreed I would stay home until all three were in full time school, so far it has worked out very well. My husband makes enough to food on the table, pay bills, and still have money to spend for fun.~~