priorities; what do the children give up

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priorities; what do the children give up
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Sun, 11-08-2009 - 6:49pm
This topic "piggybacks" on the priorities topic where we discussed what we gave up as working women and moms, what do you think our children give up...honestly!? What do you think they gain? Also please mention your own mothers status and your experience of a child as a SAH or WOH.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 8:45am

I don't add up my life and my daughters life in gained/loss columns.

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 8:59am

Your post is so full of tired stereotypes and generalizations that I hardly know where to begin.


- ability to talk about things that happen at school when it is fresh in their minds...they talk to others instead - like daycare teachers!
Working doesn't always mean kids don't see parents directly after school. Also, not all kids want/need to talk right away. Some kids prefer to mull things over before talking about them. Some kids just don't want to talk about it at all.


- knowing that their parent is available to them whenever they need them.
WOHPs can be available whenever kids need them. I guarantee you that if my kid needed me *right now*... I'd be there in minutes.


- having parents involved in their school day for homeschooling, school parties, and field trips.
I know many WOHPS who are there for school parties and field trips. I've done a few of those myself, as have dh and xh.


- they may have a bigger house, but they are not home much to enjoy it.
Why would the parents working mean the kids are home less?

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:04am

BAER.


Raw, organic and homegrown is 1) not the only way to have nutritious tasty meals, and 2) not limited to parents who SAH.


My children and I (and dh and xh)

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:04am
An oldie but a goodie. :)
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:05am

So it would not work for you and your lifestyle would not work for me (I checked out your blog, thanks for linking it). The point stands that it is possible to have a work life and still feed your kids well, pick them up from school etc.

BTW, my dd has never been in a traditional daycare. The first 2 years of her life she had a PT sitter at home. After that she stayed with a neighbor 1-2X a week, a highly educated and dedicated caregiver and went to a local preschool a few times a week. After that she went to school. Unlike you I *do* want my kid to socialize with a variety of people and be exposed to a variety of viewpoints and lifestyles.

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Registered: 07-20-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:10am

"My parents were dual wohps from about when I was a year old. Interesting enough, there was a parent home after school during elementary school at all times....we walked, no riding or buses."

What about middle and high school?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:29am

It sounds like you are speaking for children in general, is that correct?


<- ability to talk about things that happen at school when it is fresh in their minds...they talk to others instead - like daycare teachers!
- knowing that their parent is available to them whenever they need them.
- having parents involved in their school day for homeschooling, school parties, and field trips.
- they may have a bigger house, but they are not home much to enjoy it.
- parents who have the time and energy to play with their children.
- lots of quality family time, as parents must make dinner, do household maintenance (like cleaning, repairs, etc.), get homework done, and get children played and put to bed only to get children up to do it again the next day.
- homemade meals and treats that are tastier and more nutritious than quick easy store bought things.>>


Because my children haven't given up those things, well except being involved in homeschooling, my children attend a traditional school.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-20-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:52am
Not sure what you mean. I asked a simple question that anyone else would have since kids don't just go to elementary school.
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Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:56am

what I mean is that for years every.single. thing. that pKA or BWU says you question, you niggle, you dig, you accuse, you suspect....


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:10am

I have a grain mill!

PumpkinAngel

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