priorities; what do the children give up

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priorities; what do the children give up
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Sun, 11-08-2009 - 6:49pm
This topic "piggybacks" on the priorities topic where we discussed what we gave up as working women and moms, what do you think our children give up...honestly!? What do you think they gain? Also please mention your own mothers status and your experience of a child as a SAH or WOH.

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:14am

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Yes, so am I.....I hope that I have given them a good foundation and that they are able to choose their own friends, not me choose them for them.


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:15am

I rode the bus in middle school, parents drove in high school until I was old enough to drive and/or have friends that drove.


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:27am

"My parents were dual wohps from about when I was a year old. Interesting enough, there was a parent home after school during elementary school at all times....we walked, no riding or buses."

What about middle and high school?

"I rode the bus in middle school, parents drove in high school until I was old enough to drive and/or have friends that drove."

That wasn't the question, was there a parent home after school during middle and high school?

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:40am

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PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:57am

The question, as I understand it is what would my children have to give up - these are the things my children would have to give up...and it would be a great sacrifice to our family!


I also want my children to socialize with a great deal of people.

 

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 12:01pm

Those are my observations and my experiences from my view point, as I started at the start of my post.


I should have written it more clearly though throughout the rest of that...Sorry!

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 12:04pm

That sounds wonderful!

 

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 12:11pm
I'm also very concerned with feeding my family nutritious wholesome food. However, we go at it a slightly different way. Rather than trying to grow and raise our food, we support local farmers as much as we can. I seriously doubt my DH would ever want to live on a farm, and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't either. We enjoy living in town, within walking distance of most of the places we need to go. We have a small city lot, that I am trying to convert to edible landscaping, bit by bit. In any case, there is no way we could afford to buy as many things locally and organically, if I did not work.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 1:15pm

My kids give up:


Flexible bedtimes and on rare occasions, the ability to sleep in. I say rare, because we actually have a lot of flexibility in the morning routine. But maybe twice in the last 3 months, one of my children has had to be woken up

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 1:22pm
- ability to talk about things that happen at school when it is fresh in their minds...they talk to others instead - like daycare teachers!
- knowing that their parent is available to them whenever they need them.
- having parents involved in their school day for homeschooling, school parties, and field trips.
- they may have a bigger house, but they are not home much to enjoy it.
- parents who have the time and energy to play with their children.
- lots of quality family time, as parents must make dinner, do household maintenance (like cleaning, repairs, etc.), get homework done, and get children played and put to bed only to get children up to do it again the next day.
- homemade meals and treats that are tastier and more nutritious than quick easy store bought things.>

Maybe you should clarify by saying YOUR children give up, because we have a dual WOH household, and my children don't give up any of the things you mention, other than homeschooling, which I wouldn't do even if I was a SAHM.

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