priorities; what do the children give up

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Registered: 11-08-2009
priorities; what do the children give up
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Sun, 11-08-2009 - 6:49pm
This topic "piggybacks" on the priorities topic where we discussed what we gave up as working women and moms, what do you think our children give up...honestly!? What do you think they gain? Also please mention your own mothers status and your experience of a child as a SAH or WOH.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 10:13am

I personally have enjoyed finding time to spend together as a family, it helps that we have a lot of common interests and neither dh or I work crazy hours.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 10:42am

she's your youngest,correct?

 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:10am

In never had all three in primary school at the same time, by the time DD3 started school DD1 was in middle school.

I was a SAHM until my DD3 was in 1st grade. For the first three years after I returned to the workforce I worked for school systems. In the first job I worked part time so was there when they left for school and three when they got home. In my second job I worked full time. I had to be at work at 6:30 so their father got them off in the morning but I was there when they got home from school. Since I worked for the school system there was only one day per year that I had to work when they were not in school.

I started the job I have when my DDs were in 4th, 8th and 10 grade. Throughout DD3s elementary and middle school years I worked around her schedule which meant I was home when the other kids got home also (until their senior year of high school when they had a shortened day). When she was in high school I no longer worked around her schedule but because of her long day I was able to still work full time and 90% of the time be home before she was, when I was not there when she got home I usually was within 20 minutes of her doing so.

In this job I did not have summers off but the first few years I cut my hours way back in the summer. But going in early most days I was home by lunch. As the business grew so did my work load and by the time DD3 was a junior in high school I was pretty much working full time in the summer also .

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:22am

actually,taking something for granted can be a good thing.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:24am

fine.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:26am
how profound.

 

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:27am
Often when kids take things for granted, then that is when they end up with entitlement issues.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:33am

I think that a child whose basic needs for shelter, food, education, health care, and nutrition are met is a very fortunate child, and likely to grow up with a sense of security and well-being. However, I do think that it is important that as children grow up, they realize that these things are not things that everyone has, and that it is important that they learn to share their time, talent, things, and abilities with others.

We are not a materialistic family but I am glad that my kids have access to things like their musical instruments, their bicycles, sports equipment, good books, things like that. They are not as necessary and food, clothing and shelter, but they do enhance the quality of our lives.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:35am
They have to "have" something in order to give it away. You cannot share your toys or your warm clothes with someone unless you have toys or warm clothing to share. You cannot make a meal and take it to a new mother unless you have food to share.
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 11:40am

How can you not?

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