Putting on my flame proof pants here...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Putting on my flame proof pants here...
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 10:31pm

but have to say...that I've definetly noticed that its not just quality time, but also quantity of time one spends with their children.

I've been struggling with the SAH/WOH and in betweens since my children were born 26 months ago. I've decided, mostly, that I'll leave my intense full on/full time career to work from home in January. Part of the reason to be blunt is I can. And I recognize that many, if not most, WOHP's don't have that option. The other part though is the reality that I've seen with my kids. The reality is...spend lots of time away, and they start to disconnect a little bit from you and gravitate toward the parent, or care giver, who is with them most. With us that's been DH.

So....having been on all sides of the debate now. From SAHM for 7 ms, to part time SAH for the next 6, to full time 60+ hours a week of work...I can honestly say that time with the kids *does* matter. It just does. And I've gotten my head around needing that time with them, vs work (which I also love) as, for lack of a better cliche, time just flies!

Anyway, somewhat just venting as I'm away from home till Wed. And somewhat realizing that I've finally got my priorities right. And that means working part time till the kids are at least in kindegarten. Life is just too short.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not making a judgement on WOH parents who have to; or on parents who'd rather be at work. I think both are fine. I just think its obvious that time invested *does* matter. We just have to determine what that time is worth.

MM

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 11:26pm
I'm assuming from your post that you don't approve of the tear down of four houses to build one. Can you tell me what your objection is? Why should I think of this as a negative?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 6:50am

You have made an awful lot of assumptions about how these people who have a $75,000 limit manage their credit. Which reflects on what you do, and what you think and what your limitations are with your particular financial circumstances. I'm not thinking your financial situation has much in common with the person who has the $75,000 limit. I guess you totally missed my real point - rich people have more options.

You are plain wrong about the $5K limit thing. In the real world credit card companies send out offers to everyone and their house pets. Do you know how those offers work? Are you familiar with Platinum btw? Oh and the financial position likely to attach itself to a retail sales clerk isn't really so likely to be a good point from which to judge what is 'rich' and what 'isn't rich'.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:38am
My 6 y/o and 4 y/o have frequent flier accounts. Now even they are getting bombarded with credit card solicitations. I mean, REALLY! Ticks me off that the airlines are selling their lists. I just found something the other day that you can call to have your name taken off those credit card mailers. Of course, I put it somewhere and now can't find it! If I find it, you want it too?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:41am
I can tell you why it would be a negative around here - it affects the "integrity" of the neighborhood. There are battles going on around here all the time w/people who tear down ONE house to build a behemoth, so four?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:48am
We have many neighborhoods up here in New England in which teardowns are quite common. A postage-stamp size lot, maybe 5000sf (what is that about an 1/8 of an acre?) with a 1000 sf house on it gets torn down to build a 3000sf house. Some are even bigger and sometimes two lots are torn down to build 1 big house. The people who live in these neighborhoods in the 1000 sf homes don't like it because for one, it does change the look of the neighborhood in what most people consider a negative way. The other thing it does is raise the tax base, which in a lot of towns taxes are really really high. So, yes, I would agree it is a negative impact.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:39am

Yes! I would like to have that.

The funny thing about DS1 getting the AARP application is that DH sent it back, and on the part where it says something like, are you retired, work FT, work PT, stuff like that, DH checked other and wrote "I am a 12 yo kid." LOL! And wouldn't you know that DS1 got a bill in the mail for his "membership." OY!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:22am
Do you see me eating boxes?
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Registered: 02-11-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:24am
oic....are you saying that the rich and affluent get the (75K) limit very easily regardless of whether or not they use it? if so, i understand. but in turn, i also know that the bankrupt or credit card abusers are very well likely to keep right up there with them. their credit limits are raised because of the frequency of their spending and they answer those, what i call, junk mail solicitations for more and more credit........which is why i believe that someone who CARRIES 75K in credit card debt has (potential) bankruptcy written all over them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:24am
Does having one mammoth house instead of 4 cozy ones add to the neighborhood vibe you want?

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:27am
n/t

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