Putting on my flame proof pants here...

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Putting on my flame proof pants here...
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 10:31pm

but have to say...that I've definetly noticed that its not just quality time, but also quantity of time one spends with their children.

I've been struggling with the SAH/WOH and in betweens since my children were born 26 months ago. I've decided, mostly, that I'll leave my intense full on/full time career to work from home in January. Part of the reason to be blunt is I can. And I recognize that many, if not most, WOHP's don't have that option. The other part though is the reality that I've seen with my kids. The reality is...spend lots of time away, and they start to disconnect a little bit from you and gravitate toward the parent, or care giver, who is with them most. With us that's been DH.

So....having been on all sides of the debate now. From SAHM for 7 ms, to part time SAH for the next 6, to full time 60+ hours a week of work...I can honestly say that time with the kids *does* matter. It just does. And I've gotten my head around needing that time with them, vs work (which I also love) as, for lack of a better cliche, time just flies!

Anyway, somewhat just venting as I'm away from home till Wed. And somewhat realizing that I've finally got my priorities right. And that means working part time till the kids are at least in kindegarten. Life is just too short.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not making a judgement on WOH parents who have to; or on parents who'd rather be at work. I think both are fine. I just think its obvious that time invested *does* matter. We just have to determine what that time is worth.

MM

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:20am

<< texas tuscany >>


What an oxymoron.

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:23am
I meant cozy as in size, not appearance, but in the best of all worlds, you lose 4 ugly uncared for houses and one magnificent mansion.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:28am
All other things are almost never the same.
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:32am

Or, you know... a gas station. I mean, why let a little thing like zoning standards stop you?

Karen

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:35am

excuse me.....oxymoron? please explain. my neighborhood is far from what i understand *mcmansion* to mean. here, i thought i'd link a subdivision not too far from me but with very very similar homes to my neighborhood of homes.

http://www.har.com/cs_singlefamily.htm

can you imagine tearing down 3 or 4 of these styles to build a new hollywood tuscany style that happen to be popular here.....but *not* popular in established neighborhoods with quaint, charming homes and their own integrity like this neighborhood or my own neighborhood.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:37am
I'd like to know where everyone is getting the notion it's all CC debt.
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:37am

My neighborhood is very similar to yours, but even if they were a bunch of ugly eyesores (trust me, we have them), I'd rather that the zoning laws require them to build within the existing lot. An ugly eyesore can then become a nice house that doesn't cast shadow over everything around it. There is one house in our neighborhood that everyone refers to as the hotel - it is huge and lovely to look at, but just doesn't fit in (though they did build w/in the existing lot, so it's not too bad). They have an attitude the size of their home. Think they are entitled to everything. Caused many problems in our neighborhood like "Gee, this nice beach that is community property is adjacent to my property. I don't want anyone swimming there, so I'm just going to pretend it's mine and try to keep anyone from using it." Nice try. Last I heard, they were getting divorced and the house was sold. Hopefully the new owners will be more cordial.

I'm rather fond of the woman who lives in the tear-down across the street. However, if she moves, dh and I will be moving in to try and buy her home LOL. We've been eyeing it for years. I don't want a huge house though, so the neighbors wouldn't have to worry if we do buy it.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:41am
What are your undies in a bunch about?

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:41am

As long as it's well maintained, who cares?

Our neighborhood is almost all single story stucco ranches.

Mondo

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:47am

They've been building this house for well over six months, so I've gotten used to the idea. I did feel a certain shock and disgust when the house was being framed (I think I even posted about it at the time.) It seemed so enormous, especially knowing only two people will live there. But now that they started to work on some details, I see that this house will be simply magnificent. It is architecturally interesting and the craftmanship going into the stone work is impressive. I've also started to imagine more about the people who will live there. I know that the owner has worked very hard in his life, accomplished great things, and this is his dream home. I don't know that I can begrudge him that, if that is how he wants to reward himself.

I can't change the fact that the house is being built, and I don't want to move just now, so I am going to have positive thoughts about the new house and the new neighbors. Because it doesn't do me any good to do otherwise.

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