Question about the labels

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Question about the labels
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:10pm

I do not consistently identify myself as either a SAHM or a WOHM. I do not have paid employment, but I am out of the house about 15-18 hours a week, first to go to school, now to study for the bar exam. (I also study after the kids go to bed and on weekends). I have also been home during summers and semester breaks. I noticed that grateful does not identify herself as a SAHM, for reasons of her own. I've seen other women who are away from their kids more than I am away from mine but identify themselves as SAHMs. made me curious.

How much time can you be away from your kids and home on a regular basis and still be a SAHM? Does the question of whether the label fits hinge at all on what type of care your kids are receiving when they are not with you?

Does the WOHM label require being paid for your work? Does it matter if you work 20+ hours a week doing volunteer work vs. being paid?

Do you attach value judgments to the labels? Do you take pride in saying you are a SAHM, and therefore would want to hold onto that label even if you started working 20 hours a week while your kids are in school? Would you continue to call yourself a WOHM even if you dropped your hours to 20? Do you attach judgments when others identify themselves as one or the other?

Just curious. TIA.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:25pm
I call myself a SAHM even though I WAHPT (VERY part time, although I do have a new project right now - yippee) and I also have a new
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:37pm

Well, on this board it seems that WOHP means anyone who works outside the home for pay. Period. SAHP means anyone who does not work inside or outside the home for pay. WAHP means anyone who works at home for pay.

In real life, I've found people tend to define a SAHP as anyone who is at home with their kids from 9-5ish each day and doesn't use othercare.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 2:47pm
Thank you both. It does seem to be different on this board than in RL. I've noticed IRL many other mothers talk to me as if I am a SAHM, whereas I don't really feel that I can identify with the SAHMs in the context of this debate. Maybe because in the context of the debate, I feel like SAHM is a philosophy rather than a lifestyle.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 6:13pm

How much time can you be away from your kids and home on a regular basis and still be a SAHM?

I do not think the time matters at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 6:19pm

Well, I think that about sums it up for me too.