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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:04am

If you are a WOHM, how old was your child(ren) when you went back to work? Did you *have* to go back then or choose to go back then? If you wanted to wait, how old would your child(ren) have been when you went back to WOHM?

If you are a WAHM, will you change to WOHM at some point? If so, what age would your child(ren) be ideally when you do?

If you are a SAHM, will you ever go to WAHM or WOHM? If so, is there an age that you think it would be better for your child(ren)?

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Registered: 03-27-2000
In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:19am

I've been in and out of the workforce since having kids.

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In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:35am
When you say "when they were born," how old were they when you returned to work?

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In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:54am

I was a SAHM until my youngest two, out of five, were 2 and 4yo. At that point, I began teaching in a private preschool 4 days a week/3 hours a day. However, the kids went with me. I was trading my teaching time for their tuition for the first 5 years; the last year, they were all in school when I was at work.

After that, I was a SAHM until my youngest was in middle school. I then taught at the new private school that he had begun in 5th grade. I was gone until after my high schoolers (2 of them) were home due to the drive home being 30-40 minutes.

The following year, I went to college with all my two remaining children in public high school. My classes were such that I usually had a night class, and I did attend summer term.

The next year, I only had one left at home. We moved to a new state. I was a SAHM again until he left home.

I did do child care in my home at various periods of time. My current business wasn't started until the year my youngest left home.

I have watched my dd's and their journey through mothering. My oldest dd has one dd, 5yo. She was a SAHM until dgd was 2yo. At that time, she wanted to leave her SO and had to WOH to do so. She took a class and started working the gaming tables at the local casino. She's very good at her job, both the technique, technicalities, and people skills. She's very graceful and great to watch when she isn't looking. :) DGD has never been in professional or home day care. She's always been left with family members. Now, dd has a great SO who works opposite shifts than she does and is GREAT with dgd. He'll be picking her up from school in a couple of weeks. Now, all dd has to do is talk dgd out of the "big, party, princess dress" that she wants to wear for the first day of school. LOL

My youngest dd has two children, dgd almost 2yo and dgs 3 months old. She has *had* to WOH. Due to errors made by her supervisors, she had to go back to work when dgd was 3 weeks old. Since she knew better the second time and went to HR instead of her supervisors with dgs, she just went back to work about two or three weeks ago. The time she had at home, 3 months total, with dgd and dgs was precious. She really enjoys being a mom. She has a very strong bond with both of the kids, more so than prior to dgs being born, IMO. For her, the biggest problem has been daycare. That problem has been solved as of yesterday. Thank goodness!

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In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:05am

I'm not sure where I wasn' t clear

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In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:22am

"If you are a WOHM, how old was your child(ren) when you went back to work?"

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:33am

If you are a WOHM, how old was your child(ren) when you went back to work? Did you *have* to go back then or choose to go back then? If you wanted to wait, how old would your child(ren) have been when you went back to WOHM?

Both kids were 12 weeks when I went back to work.
I had to go back for financial reasons.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:42am

My two girls are in their 20s. I WAH and have no intention of doing anything other than what I'm doing right now until I am ready to retire. I like my job that much.

For some reason, some people have a hard time wrapping their brains around that idea.

I love this question.."so..are you ever planning on getting a job?" BWAHAHAHAHA

Sue

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In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 11:13am

I've kind of run the gamut with work status, so I'll answer all of these....

If you are a WOHM, how old was your child(ren) when you went back to work? I was a sah for 2 years after my son was born, then went back to woh pt.

Did you *have* to go back then or choose to go back then? both. I wanted to and we needed the extra $.

If you wanted to wait, how old would your child(ren) have been when you went back to WOHM?I was happy with my choice to go back when my son was 2

If you are a WAHM, will you change to WOHM at some point? Its not likely at this point, but anything is possible.

If so, what age would your child(ren) be ideally when you do? If I were to go back to woh ft, I'd like my youngest (now 8) to be old enough to not need before/aftercare.

If you are a SAHM, will you ever go to WAHM or WOHM? I was a sah for 2 years, woh pt for 5 yeears and I am now a ft wah.

If so, is there an age that you think it would be better for your child(ren)? No perfect age, although I was able to work it out so we didnt have to use othercare and that was very cost-effective for us.

Dj

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 12:15pm

If you are a WOHM, how old was your child(ren) when you went back to work? Did you *have* to go back then or choose to go back then? If you wanted to wait, how old would your child(ren) have been when you went back to WOHM?

I was a wohm for Joy's first 2 years. Quit when Erica was born and didn't go back until the girls were 13, 11, and 7. Was pt wahm during those years. Was a wohm, pt wahm when Dylan was born, became a pt wohm, ft wahm when he was 3. Been that for 6 years now.

If you are a WAHM, will you change to WOHM at some point? If so, what age would your child(ren) be ideally when you do?

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If you are a SAHM, will you ever go to WAHM or WOHM? If so, is there an age that you think it would be better for your child(ren)?

See first question

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: amcanmom
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 12:36pm

Not everyone is cut out to perpetually "raise" infants, toddlers, and preschoolers for 20 + years. My hat's off to you, my sister and mother, and all dcps everywhere.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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