RANT - What is the Problem Here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2007
RANT - What is the Problem Here?
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Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:16pm

What is with people who decide to belittle me because I want to give up my job and be a SAHM?


DH and I have planned it for quite some time, and it looks as if my dream of being a SAHM to my three little ones is about to come true (after New Year's?), and I am getting SOOOO many negative comments from people who know what the plan is.


Like I am some kind of lazy idiot for wanting to stay home and look after my house and the little ones (18 months and 2.5) and be there when 12 y/o SD gets home from school?


Like I'm crazy for wanting to give up a "terrific job" to take care of my kids?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:25pm

Yeah, I got a lot of that when I left my job too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:26pm

I have been a SAHM for 10 years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:31pm
The problem is you're letting them get to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2007
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:33pm

Oh, I'm getting flack from everyone, and it's just a little frustrating.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:33pm
I work part time and I get those comments all the time. Everyone's natural reaction is when am I going full time. And I don't plan on it til the kids are well into their teens if ever. And that's looked at as abnormal somehow.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:38pm

I WOH full time -- I hate housecleaning so...I don't.

 

Yes. We. Did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:46pm
Here is my dads philsophy on cobwebs....Spiders need a home too.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:52pm

well by now you've all heard about Kelly and Liza writing "we love mommy/Katie" in the dust on the tv in my bedroom LOL.

 

Yes. We. Did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:57pm

They're just jealous. This is one of those times when you have to prepare yourself with snappy comebacks. How about:

"But do *you* have any experience as a SAHP?"

"Oh, I'm so sorry SAH didn't work out well for you, but I'm looking forward to it myself!"

"Oh, I know if I get too bored, I can just call you and let you beotch about how tough it is at work!"

Or maybe, "Well, it's all about having a support system of people you can count on for *supporrt*" (that is, people not like you).

Or just give them a blank stare and wait for them to figure out they're being stupid. Or not, lol.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 1:32pm
Congratulations! I'm glad your dream is about to become reality.

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