Reasons to SAHM when the kids are

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Reasons to SAHM when the kids are
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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 1:34am
in school..fulltime. It seems like to me that it's very much accepted in this society to be a SAHM when you have small children.(newborn to preschool/kinder). You are home to take care of your children right? I don't believe anyone really questions why you are being a SAHP and not working. It's almost a given why you don't WOH. However, what happens when you no longer need to take care of your children during the day b/c they are at school from 8am to 4pm (give or take, whatever the schedule is). I'm just curious to see how SAHM justify it when they don't have children to take care of. Do WOHM's think it's being lazy to be at home all day when you don't have children there?
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 7:52pm

My kids are not all in school full time yet, but I have no plans to go back to work when they are.

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 9:00pm

Funny story...I have a friend at work (man) whose wife is a SAHM.

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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 10:01pm

I used the word "justify" b/c this is a debate board where I get the impression that SAHM's have to justify why they don't work or why they think DC is unacceptable.


IRL, I don't justify anything to anyone. I'm a SAHM and always plan to be. I actually quit working while I was TTC with no children. I didn't try to justify that either other than to respond, "no i don't WOH".

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 11:35pm

I know a couple of

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 8:45am

I WOHPT. I work the night shift on the weekends and home during the week. I keep myself very busy during the week. I do have a 3 yo still at home but she is in pre school 12 hours a week now. When she starts full time school I am going to keep my PT status. I am very involved with Girl Scouts and the church. I also have many home improvement projects on the horizon. I am just getting started. I have found life got busier once the older two started school. I really have to be on top of things.


I will always be home when they get off the bus. That is probably the most important reason why I would never return to work FT or switch to the day or eve shift.

 

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 8:54am
My friends that kids in school and still stay at home have dh with very high maintenance jobs. Their dh travel A LOT and it is nothing for them to be a couple of weeks home alone without his help. I have a friend that had to throw a tea for a bunch of Middle East dignitaries's wives. She has attended dinners at the White House ect... Basically she is expect to be available for certain social obligations w/o a lot of notice.

 

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 10:07am

The only person a sahp needs to justify their status is their spouse. They want to sah, their family can afford a sahp, it works for their family, their family can't afford daycare on 2 paychecks, their family needs a sahp, etc.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 11:05am
No, you need not justify why you do not work. Most people would assume it is what you have decided is best for you and yours. SAHMs do get challenged when they make statements about daycare being unacceptable, period. Obviously many people disagree with such a statement, so if you make it you would be expected to come up with some good reasons why you think that is so.
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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 11:09am
That is similar to my situation, although we are not quite talking the White House, but many business related social obligations and lots of travel for dh. I have always worked though, but mostly PT and on a flexible schedule.
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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 2:10pm

One of my good friends' husband is a submarine officer.