Respect for working single parents

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Respect for working single parents
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 11:37am

My DH is out of town this week on business.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 7:11am
I know that and the single biggest thing people get bitter about is money LOL. My ex could have gone down that path -- he had seom friends basically saying "screw the B*tch" and I said to him "do you REALLY want that to be the legacy you write? do you REALLy want that to be what you leave this marriage with? WE have the power to write this story but only if we BOTH take it" and god help me it got through to him and now four years later I like him better than I ever did when we were married LOL -- last week was very complicated with Liza's dance rehearsals and recitals and play rehearsals and it took me, kelly, David and his wife and his family to get her where she needed to be every day and at the end of the last recital the four of us high fived each other for getting through it ! THAT makes me happier than any support check could frankly LOL
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 8:49am

There are no extenuating circumstances for abusive behavior.


what i disagreed wtih

 

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:19am

<what i disagreed wtih

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:41am

I have no idea what you're trying to convey.

Is the victim responsible for the behavior of the abuser? Never.

Does the victim need therapy? Usually.

There are some situations where the abusive behavior is perpetrated by both partners in a relationship. Is that what your trying to say?

I'm still missing the part when one is blessed by not being in an abusive relationship.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:56am

< I have no idea what you're trying to convey.


Is the victim responsible for the behavior of the abuser? Never.


Does the victim need therapy? Usually.


There are some situations where the abusive behavior is perpetrated by both partners in a relationship. Is that what your trying to say?


I'm still missing the part when one is blessed by not being in an abusive relationship.>


Me too to all of the above :)

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:51pm

My parents couldn't co-parent either but it was still better then living with them that way. I don't think it's about luck, I think in most cases it takes hard work.


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 4:09pm

Not that I understand the point egdblessed is trying to make, but I will say that I agree that abusive relationships are usually about more than the abuser. Abusers seek out victims and vice versa.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 4:46pm
You are a smart lady:) You should write a book on how to have a positive divorce.
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 5:00pm

I think what she meant was that if the abuser does not seek counseling, then then marriage is not salvageable no matter how many hours the victim logs in the therapist's office. In that sense, it is absolutely and solely the abuser's responsibility to get help.


Yes, there is a family dynamic in abusive relationships, but the marriage has no chance of surviving unless the abuser gets help for his (or, less commonly, her)

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 11:25pm

Boy, I hear you. DH was out of town last week for a couple of days and will be this week for a couple of days.