My DH is out of town this week on business.
Yes. We. Did.
There are no extenuating circumstances for abusive behavior.
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I have no idea what you're trying to convey.
Is the victim responsible for the behavior of the abuser? Never.
Does the victim need therapy? Usually.
There are some situations where the abusive behavior is perpetrated by both partners in a relationship. Is that what your trying to say?
I'm still missing the part when one is blessed by not being in an abusive relationship.
I'm still missing the part when one is blessed by not being in an abusive relationship.>
Me too to all of the above :)
My parents couldn't co-parent either but it was still better then living with them that way. I don't think it's about luck, I think in most cases it takes hard work.
Not that I understand the point egdblessed is trying to make, but I will say that I agree that abusive relationships are usually about more than the abuser. Abusers seek out victims and vice versa.
I think what she meant was that if the abuser does not seek counseling, then then marriage is not salvageable no matter how many hours the victim logs in the therapist's office. In that sense, it is absolutely and solely the abuser's responsibility to get help.
Yes, there is a family dynamic in abusive relationships, but the marriage has no chance of surviving unless the abuser gets help for his (or, less commonly, her)
Boy, I hear you. DH was out of town last week for a couple of days and will be this week for a couple of days.