Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:07pm

Maybe why this whole thread bugs me so much, is the fact my kids do attend a

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:28pm
Beacause it presents a more detailed picture of where my dd is and indicates what she may need. For example, dd#1 was grouped with the upper group so I knew that what she was getting at home, dc and school was fine and there was no risk of her dummying herself down to her peers because she had peers at her level. Dd#2 has no peers at her level. She needs extra challenges and people looking out to make sure she doesn't dummy herself down. In another post, I noted that her teacher has her doing extra work. She's expected to write several sentences on the subject at hand while her classmates write a word or two. She, repeatedly, tries to turn in a single sentence but her teacher sends her back to do more because she knows she can.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:30pm
No I didn't. I've already answered it. She was letting me know that my dd was getting what she needs on all fronts. Well on the dc front anyway. She was telling me that I didn't need to change anything.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:34pm
No, the comparison is useful because the scores show whether or not dummying herself down is dragging her down. Next parent teacher conference we'll see if she's still as far apart from the other kids as she is now. It's a way of tracking her progress in the class she's in. Comparing her to a national average would be useless since schools themselves differ wildly in how/what they teach. I have a benchmark for my dd that include HER peer group. The one learning in the same class as her, with the same curriculum, in the same environment and under the same teacher. Significant changes in ranking would require investigation.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:34pm
LOL.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:36pm
Yup, social hour was preschool.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:52pm
It's either 3rd or 4th grade here. Same reason. Some kids are just out of the gate fast and all that happens is their peers catch up in time. I thought that was going to be the case with dd as for the past year or so she really hasn't changed much but then she started to take off again. She tracked about 1 year for every 9 months for the first 3+ years of her life and then slowed down and her peers started to catch up. Just when I thought they would, she's taken off again. She can't get enough reading or math right now. Her teacher tells me she's quite the little science whiz too.

She'll be tested next summer to deicide if she's just a fast starter or gifted though watching her current intellectual spurt I think we know the answer to that one. I really didn't expect her to progress much this year because she already knows what she needs to know for 1st grade and kindy isn't going to be too challenging for a child who already knows what she needs to know to go on but she's progressing anyway in spite of no one really pushing her. I have, deliberately, not pushed her because she was already ahead of her peers but she seems to be separating herself out, again (when she was 3, they moved her up a year in dc because she "had nothing in common with the kids her age". I'm starting to think we're going to see that happen again.). If I had to call it now, I'd say gifted with a distinct learning pattern of a period of accelerated learning followed by a period of honing skills. For the past year+ all she'd really done was practice what she already knew. Now it's all new stuff all the old stuff is "baby stuff".

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:55pm

Not saying it isn't "there"....but from our experiance (as in our district) it is not the "main" or even the third aspect of kinder.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:58pm
Yea, given that your dd was at the very top of the class, I can see why you'd need to be assured that dc was not an issue.

Ok, no. I don't see why you'd need to be assured that dc was not an issue. Was she just patting you on the back for putting your dd in daycare and thereby insuring she'd be exposed to books? Ha! You should be insulted since it holds the assumption that DAYCARE is where kids are exposed to books and so dc kids have nothing to worry about since the inadequacies of their functionally illiterate parents will be made up for by dc providers. (Ok, maybe not THAT harsh, but still, it sounds like she's a little TOO tickled pink that some kids are in dc, as though it's their best shot and book exposure.)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 4:03pm
Uh huh. After showing you a chart with your dd at the top, THEN she says you have nothing to worry about because your dd is in(was in?) dc? You SHOULD be insulted. Your dd obviously doesn't have academic problems to address, so what would you need to be assured about? That dc wouldn't cause her to regress? That you did the right thing by putting her in dc? If she meant the latter, be insulted! She just implied that your dd's literacy can be attributed to dc, as though you are no more likely to read a book to her than any neighboring SAHM, so thank god she had dc to expose her to books.

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