Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 9:24pm
Dc does has it's benefits. Especially for kids whose parents neglect them, but dc kids still can't rise above normal development. Before the age of 3, it is a rare child who engages in much more than parallel play. Some kids get it by 3, but many do not til 4ish. No child is *well socialized* by 5. Blessed with dc or not. Many children are still not *well socialized* by 10.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 9:26pm
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Me too, which is more of the reason that I am calling BS on this.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 9:32pm
I am not so sure the teacher even said it. With each of CLW's posts I become increasingly suspicious that she is making it all up. It is so full of contradictions. Even if CLW didn't question the validity of the charts and note the gossip, surely another parent would and would complain. Surely a teacher with 20 years experience would not single out a bright child and use her as an aide in the classroom - particulary one who dummies down. It would be just plain stupid of a teacher to comment on the children attending dc vs those with a SAHP. Odd isn't it, how this teacher's observation over the past 20 years are just the same as CLW's? BS BS BS
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Sat, 11-29-2003 - 9:33pm
I don't really care what anyone elses' choice is for their family. Staying at home was the best and only choice for my family. No one could have done as good of a job as I did because I had the most invested emotionally in my children. There was never not one moment of consideration of doing anything else. It was the best choice. Period. No ones' opinion of my lifestyle has ever mattered to me. I am not wishy washy about my choices but then I don't try to tell anyone else how to live either. I am extremely satisfied with my choice.
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Sat, 11-29-2003 - 9:35pm
What was offensive about it in CLW's OP was that the teacher indicated to the parent that the children who had never been read to and don't know their letters were children of SAHPs. The use of the chart may be useful for the teacher. If she found it relevent to share with a parent of a child who is at either end of the middle, that would be somewhat understandable - although very unusual. If that was done with a little commentary about the children of SAHPs not being read to - particulary with no accurate information to back that assertion up, it is highly offensive and unprofessional.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 10:17pm
How do you know every parent saw that chart? Did you attend every conference?

Why couldn't the teacher simply tell you, your daughter is doing fine and daycare isn't a problem wrt to her progress? Why the importance of slamming an entire parenting choice just to demonstrate how good yours was? And what's so freaking professional about that?

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 11:55pm
Then why did you?
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 11:58pm
Yup - reading too long without a break is why my vision is now somewhere in the neighborhood of 20/250
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 12:35am
Was thinking the same thing. Obviously WAS worth responding to, just didn't have an adequate response. LOL
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:26am
You could take this as an insult either way but in context, I believe she was just reaffirming that dc did no harm. As I've mentioned before, this was right about the time Belsky went off half cocked about dc creating aggression in kids. The teacher and I also discussed that study at this conference. At the time, there was a lot of negative press about dc. I don't find it odd at all that a teacher who saw dc as a benefit would not hesitate to tell a WM that during a parent teacher conference. I've talked to her several times and she has stated that she sees the dc kids as more school ready than the SAH kids.

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