Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:27am
Nope, lol. And there was nothing wrong with her saying it.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:29am
So it wouldn't be ASSumed I just missed it. And I didn't respond. I simply stated it's not worth responding to. A response is a rebuttal.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:30am
Dc has it's benefits for kids with good parents. The effect dc on kids is related to moms sensitivity to her children. The more sensitive mom is, the less issue there is with dc. You have that backwards.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:32am
So how do YOU explain half the class not knowing half their letters, lol. I thought it a logical question to ask with such a disparity among the kids. BTW, she didn't even have to tell me it wasn't the dc kids because most of the moms SAH where I live. Given that they read to kids daily in the dc, it's not a leap to figure out whose kids aren't being read to. While this speaks nothing to what the WM herself is doing/not doing, her kids are being read to.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:51am
My dd will be undergoing a lengthy series of tests in the spring. I'll have to let you know how they do this when she's done. What the psychiatrist is trained in is human behavior and it's implications. For example, something I learned recently was that my dd's sleep patterns as a baby are the first indicator of higher intelligence. She never slept. We used to call her the Ni-Cad baby because she could fully recharge on about 4 hours sleep and then went full speed until she dropped (still does but she sleeps more like 9 hours at night now). Now I'm being told that this was the first indication that her intelligence is up there. I would never have guessed that my baby not sleeping was a sign of intelligence. Her doctor knew. He, jokingly, told me that the reason she had already passed all of her 1 year milestones by 9 months old was that she had been awake as long as an average 1 year old. I crunched the numbers and she had, lol. I'm kind of po'd at him. He told us she was normal for years. He'd tell me that she was "Typical of a x year old attening a mixed dc". Now he's telling me to have her tested. I'm hoping she tests out as just high normal but we'll see. You never know. That's why you have to have an expert evaluation. Maybe my dd just has a different learning curve. Maybe it's destined that her peers will just catch up some day. Maybe she's gifted and needs to be an a different environment. We'll see.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:53am
No, that's a teacher giving her professional opinion. If she'd had nothing to base it on, it would have been gossip. She was just letting a WM know that use of dc wasn't any kind of issue in her opinion.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 6:54am
No but the teacher told me all the parents got the chart. She said, something like, "Here's a chart I give to all my parents". She indicated that everyone got one and I have no reason to think otherwise. Why would she single me out to give me one?
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 7:58am
Because it lets me know how my dd is doing among HER peers. It's a bench mark that will be used to assess whether she's holding her own or falling behind in the future. It lets me know that there is nothing to be concerned about on the home front or in dc. In dd#2's case, it's a stark reminder of how different she is and that she needs to be handled differently. If her teacher had just said, "She's at the top of the class", I wouldn't have realized she stands alone at the top of the class. I would have assumed a normal distribution if I hadn't seen the chart. This is not a normal distribution. It's two normal distributions. The group who knows books and the group that doesn't and in this years case, my dd pulled away from the rest of the pack and sitting at the top.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 7:59am
My dd doesn't play dumb on tests. Just when interacting with her peers. That makes test results very valuable. Dumming themselves down is something brighter kids do to fit into the group. They don't normally do so when tested. However, she could start to fall behind because she's doing it so we have to watch.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 8:01am
No, already know from past experience that she's a great teacher. You just have a bug up your rear because you don't like what she said but your opinoin does not make her bad teacher. She is highly regarded by parents and peers alike.

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