Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Avatar for taylormomma
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:02am
My dd only recently (within the last year or so) became what I consider a "reader". She loved books, loved to be read to, but didn't like to read herself, despite testing at a high school reading level by second grade. It was the "magic treehouse" series which got her hooked on reading. Although she still likes for us to read to her.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:11am

Well because...I want my child respected and recongnized as an unique individual.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:17am

Is your current job ranked the same way?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:18am
Clueless as usual. Not my words. That's what the psychiatrist who is evaluating her calls it.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:21am

I know you are a competivite person but really?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:35am

No.


Manners are taught, but I don't think walking is.

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Avatar for taylormomma
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:45am

Unless you've got some better examples, I don't put much stock in your psychiatrist. (Actually, I don't put much stock in psychiatry at all; I much prefer clinical psychology, which IMO has a much more sound basis).


Nice dig with the "clueless", though. I guess you're expecting me to by psychic? All we have to go by is what you have chosen to share, which up till now doesn't amount to a hill of beans. It is perfectly normal for a 5-year-old to imitate behavior her peers exhibit. It doesn't mean she is "dumbing down". And on the off chance that she is, what of it? Do you think it makes her less intelligent to write her letters backwards? Being the smartest isn't necessarily a good thing. I think you care way, WAY too much about your child's academics, given that she's only in kindergarten.

Avatar for taylormomma
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 10:47am
Because there are about 100,000,000,000 more important things.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 11:10am
AMEN!!!! she should have a son like i have! what would happen if her kids rebelled to the extent my son did? and guess what, he is absolutely *shining* at this point, and is very polite, intellegent, respectful and someone i am very proud to call my son. the journey was very difficult, but all the lessons we taught him, and didnt back off from ie: manners, kindness, respect are showing in his beautiful personality today.

p.s. those lessons had nothing to do with us sitting on him to excel, or participate in sports. he did it his way, but he heard all the lessons we taught loud and clear. you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make em drink. imho, kindness is worth gobs more than an "A" in algebra.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 11:20am
You've said kids learn to read when they are ready, AND that you need to know where your child is standing WRT the rest of her class (and WRT whether those kids are DC or SAH kids) to see whether you're doing things right. Which is it, then? I don't see how those statements can be consistent.

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