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Rock and a Hard Place
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
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"But I always try and resist the urge to compare children especially my own as mine are night and day and wouldn't be very accurate."
I know I'm absolutely beating a dead horse here, but what about it wouldn't be accurate?
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Although I think the chart idea is slightly whacked, I can grasp what TM is saying.
I wasn't suggesting that the bullying aspect comes from expecting too much from kids entering K. I was suggesting that if children are expected to be *well socialized* by the age of 5, when in fact developmentally they are barely beginning to *socialize*, and if social skills training is not considered at least as important as academics, and if academic competition is encouraged at the K level, well... it sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.
I too have seen one year olds playing contentedly in the same room. One year olds, no matter how much exposure to dc or other children, do not engage in cooperative play. Not even the gifted ones.
I've seen too many "low SES" families do a mighty fine job with raising their children. Indeed, some of those children go on to be more successful than their high-SES counterparts.
Anyway, after one's basic needs are met, how much does one *need?* Since we're slinging stereotypes and generalizations around, does that mean I get to use that new "OC" TV show on Fox as an example of high SES gone bad? :-o (I'm completely hooked on that show -- my bad.)
outside_the_box_mom
Actually I don't think comparing children against their peers is good as either a prediction for the future or today.
PumpkinAngel
Laura
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