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Rock and a Hard Place
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
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Laura
"I did not think any less of him or any better of him if he rode early, late or on time....he did it when he was ready."
But did you or did you not actively encourage him to spend time on his bike?
It's not that I think less of him because he's less coordinated than his playmates.
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"Expecting him to accomplish what the other kids have given enough opportunities may not work as well as one would think."
If he can't, he can't.
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There are many factors that relate to SES. I just dont think one can make a blanket statement that *woh is generally better because it impacts SES, and higher ses is better*, because there are too many factors involved for it to BE *generally* ANYTHING.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
ITA.
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
I think that is where you are wrong in a way.
Sure it is setting the kids (and parents) up for disaster.
But I don't think reading to the class makes her stand out like a sore thumb.
As a consultant myself, I have met a number of other consultants who aren't "formally educated" but who highly value education.
A couple of years ago I was listening to Paul Harvey on the radio. He did a very nice piece on six or eight very successful people from about 100 or so years ago. I forget who they all were. He read eight stories about these very successful people -- none of them were formerly educated but all went on to do great things. Each time he introduced a new person, he would say, "And this person had the same trait in common as XX, XX, XX." All eight of these people, uneducated as they were, had one thing in common:
They each founded a university -- and all eight of them are our most prestigious universities.
What bothers me about the high SES debate is that I have met "low SES" families and have seen their children come out as good as or better than their high SES counterparts. Money doesn't guarantee anything -- just like SAH or WOH doesn't guarantee anything either.
Like everything else associated with this debate -- it's the parenting. And even that doesn't guarantee anything.
outside_the_box_mom
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