Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-23-2003 - 11:29pm
then something doesn't make sense....if you don't live in a lower middle class neighborhood I find it hard to believe that you have so many kids in kindergarten who don't know how to hold a book. This was something I encountered when I started teaching in low income areas. Those children were NOT read to....I have yet to encounter these "middle or uppermiddle class sahm's who don't read to their children"....Just where to they live?

Also what good does it do you to have a higher SES if you live in a lower income neighborhood? If half of the children in your child's kindergarten don't know how to even "hold" a book...or less than 50% don't attend college....you need to find a better place to live...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 5:05am
I don't see a correlation between the ability to make lots of $ and the ability to make wise decisions concerning its use. Think MC Hammer, LOL! (Now I really AM dating myself!)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 5:06am
Nope, no email. Bummer! Could you resend?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 6:12am

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 7:33am
Or, Dad could buy a boat and be gone fishing every weekend or the kids could be given way too much stuff and actually be worse off, or...

There's no way to predict that a child will automatically be better off with the extra $. If a family values travel, they'll travel on 60,000 and forego the new Lexus. A kid won't be better off b/c Mom drives a nicer/more expensive car, once basic safety measures have been satisfied.

Haven't you scaled back your career? If more $ = better off children, why would you do that? Surely your kids would have even *more* opportunities if you made more money?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 8:31am
None at all?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 8:32am

I'll try sending from another account.


I re-sent it - let me know if you still don't receive it.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 8:35am

It's the law of diminishing returns.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:36am
Exactly, which is where the higher ses = better kids argument breaks down. There's a saturation point at which more (money or time) doesn't improve a child's life. CLW consistently argues that more time is simply more while more money is better.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:56am
No, I don't think there's a correlation between income earning capacity and financial savvy. (I don't think there's a particularly good correspondence between income level and brains, either.) I don't think that everyone increases their standard of living with each raise - I think a lot of people don't budget enough to know whether they are making sound financial decisions enough to be able to afford the standard of living they are LIVING. It's harder NOT to live on a budget if you're on the poor side to begin with.

It might be a cultural thing - where I was raised you wouldn't think of hiring someone to handle your money, financial business is considered very personal - unless you were making millions or something perhaps.

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