Rock and a Hard Place
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Rock and a Hard Place
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
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If you have specific experience, you have a hard time finding a good "match", and at as much as $90K or $100K a year (or more, depending on location), companies want a near-perfect match.
Not to mention that a lot of our jobs are simply going overseas. Not sure what my 2nd career will be, but hopefully, if I have one, it will be something that can't be sent overseas.
I like being "challenged" too - but I like being challenged in a way that requires critical thinking, not abstract thinking. Critical thinking as - "now why does this HEMT have lower power? Is it lower current or a problem with passivation?" Not critical thinking as in "how should I react to my child's picky eating in a way that will stop it, not encourage it?"
Has nothing to do with being a kid person, it's more the KIND of challenge. Women tend to be stronger verbally, so I think the more emotional/bonding kind of challenges are good for them. I happened to have gotten the math gene, and tend to be more guy-like.
Not that I wouldn't find SAH to be challenging. I'm sure I would...got plenty of friends showing me just how hard it is.
And if caring for children does not provide the fulfillment/challenge that one seeks, I take the leap to say maybe they just aren't a kid person... there's no shame in not enjoying that KIND of challenge is there?
But parents constantly compete via their children - sports, academia, musical talent, you name it.
No, i wouldn't make that leap. So because i want to continue working (and wouldn't find fulfillment/challenge in sah) means that i'm not a kid person???
Sorry but i just gotta do it....BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAHHAHHAAHHA!!!!!!!!! That's a leap that doesn't even make sense. I'm plenty much a kid-person. Lucky thing since i have 3 of them. However, i can work AND raise them at the same time.
<<... there's no shame in not enjoying that KIND of challenge is there?>>
Never said there was. There's also no shame in enjoying the KIND of challenge a woh job brings IN ADDITION to raising kids, right?
eileen
Both of my dd's got/get plenty of play without TV or computers. Sorry, but you'll have to show me that any differences resulting from computer use actually are negative before I'm going to worry about it. Different isn't necessarily bad. The kids in my dd's class who had trouble with computers did so for a long time and looking at the class as a whole, I don't see them at any kind of advantage. On the contrary. Some of the kids who were proficient in computer use made up the top of the class. I know this is but one small snapshot but I just don't see the negatives of early computer use in my world. In fact, I see a benefit.
We'll just have to wait for dd#2's brain to turn to mush. She's so far ahead of her classmates that they will be using, GASP, computer programs among other things to challenge her while the teacher deals with the slower kids.
He's allowed to play on it for a half hour or so two or three times a week. I limit it for two reasons. One, it's my work computer and I live in fear he's going to download something accidently and wipe me out. Second, he just does not need it. What is it going to give him that he's not already getting in school?
I also read somewhere that the earlier children get on the computer, the more critical of their own creations they are. The computer makes everything neat and clean -- their creations on the other hand, are messy, outside the lines, etc. My DS has tons of craft supplies, which he is encouraged to do often -- like every day. He is preparing for his first show -- scuplture made from recyclable items. Bwhahahahahahahahaha
outside_the_box_mom
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