Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:31am

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:32am
I guess what I'm debating is that you need to measure a child's progress against his own progress and also another external benchmark.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:37am
It is, in my world, the single income families who do the "we can make minimum mortgage payments and eat on one income, clearly we can afford a sah" and think everything is hunky dory thing. Its the dual income sorts who are of the "we can't handle anything but minimum mortgage payment on one income, clearly we can't afford to live on one income" and think there is more to financial stability than the ability to meet minimum requirements all over the place.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:41am

I'm sure your not slow...it's more likely me not explaining it fully.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:46am

Well yes.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:46am
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Nope and I never said there was any shame in that either. Different strokes for different folks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:46am
Because it will never matter.

Education is about educating the brain, not competing against other students and bragging rights over the college of choice.

I couldn't care less what other kids did compared to John. Never have; never will. Their life journey has nothing to do with John's in terms of progress.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:49am

No it was an observation.


I didn't put the youngest in any classes to help him catch up to where his big brother was at that age nor did I compare him to his brother....I let him develop on his own terms at his own rate.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:50am

I find it fascinating to watch how much Alex is developing differently than Zak. Zak was always a very verbal child that was a quick learner. He would study something and do it repeatedly until he got it right. Alex is very physical. He is a mimic. He will watch us open the door and then do it himself. He is not as verbal.


I used to compare Alex to Zak and think Alex was not as bright. I realize now he is bright but in different ways than Zak. I think Alex is kinda like the Velciraptors in Jurassic Park. They learned by watching the humans open doors and open cabinets. Alex gets the same look in his eyes that they did when they are trying to open the doors. It is amazing.


Kids learn differently and the charts are more for the parents benefit than the kids. I wanted to know where Zak was in comparsion to the other kids in kindergarten. I even tried to look covertly at the grading sheet for the basic skills. It was to make me feel better not to improve Zak's skills. I know he is bright and I know he is reading well. Who cares where he places?

"I can be changed by what happens to me but I refuse to be reduced by it"

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:51am
That's ok. I've been writing non-stop for weeks now and have no brain left. :-) I think I was merely disagreeing with the whole, "you either have a 'math' gene or you don't" type of argument. If you weren't saying that, then I apologize. I just hate either/or types of generalizations. My life is anything but.

outside_the_box_mom

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