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Rock and a Hard Place
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am |
There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.
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Yes you're right to a point but comparing my two sons is like comparing an apple to a orange.
PumpkinAngel
PumpkinAngel
People tend to think that those at the top should favor such comparisons but what good does it do? In kindergarten, such a comparison is the result of parental effort or the child's natural ability. What is the point of a child knowing that she's at the top of the class when she has done nothing to earn it? This is one big problem that I have with it. I see the kids that are told over and over how smart they are and that they're the best and the attitudes are horrible. It encourages laziness when a child succedes without effort.
Later, when grades have as much to do with effort as ability, I don't see it as such a problem.
I have to say that for ds, the lack of intellectual challenge is hard at times, but one thing that Swedish schools do phenomenally well is help children develop very solid social skills...an absolutely critical ability to have in a country that values being able to work in groups effectively very highly. Since ds is average at best with his social maturity, he has gained some benefits from the system. Now if only I could find a school that would do both, sigh!
Laura
PumpkinAngel
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