Rock and a Hard Place

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 8:58pm
I agree that you can't draw comparisons between their relative skills and other broad factors like whether they have a SAHM or a WOHM.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:00pm
IMO, if your child has a natural ability in math or reading, the earlier you and the school recognize it, the better.

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Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:38pm
You're twisting this. The teacher told me the kids weren't read to. She also told me it's not the dc kids, most likely to reassure me. However, even if she hadn't said that, it would be a no brainer to figure out it has to be the kids of the SAHM's because the dc kids are read to and read to regularly. Even without that piece of information there's the simple fact that the majority of moms SAH here. Conclusion, I have SAHM neighbors who aren't reading to their kids.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:42pm
Because it tells you how your son is performing among his peers. Don't you think he knows where he ranks? My dd's been telling me since she was three that she's the smartest kid in her class. We'll see when her test scores come back if she is but she's up there and she knows it. While I had expected her to be high, I was surprised that she was ranked first by her teacher as well. Her teacher told me that my dd was tested last because they knew she was way ahead of the others and had nothing to worry about with her.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:54pm
i am sooooo glad im not the only one!!! this is why i sooooo worship my dd! she is my ally. she finds things, and works out issues without whining, she cant, doesnt want to, its to hard,.....blah, blah, blah.

my dh asks me all the time where his stuff is. first off, he *never* puts *anything* in the same place twice.....so i just respond with.....IM NOT YOUR MOTHER!!! i mean that literally. his mother stayed up his tail til the day he got married, cleaning up after him, finding things for him, just enabling him in every way she can. does it for her dh and her two other sons as well, because...."that is her job". no kidding. thats what she tells me.....blechchchch, im back on the mil subject......

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:55pm
i always ask my dh and boys if they just moved in.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:21pm
Not useless at all. Many parents have a preconcieved idea where their child should be. If the teacher just said "Johnny is below average" they might think it's the teachers perception that is off. A chart is something they can't argue with. Their child scored what their child scored.

My dd's teacher telling me she's bright and showing me she's #1 in her class have different impacts. Because of seeing this chart, I'm actually thinking I should reconsider allowing the school to double promote her. I had decided against it thinking she'd be a social outcast but now I'm starting to wonder. I wish I had a chart that would show me how she'd fit in with the current first graders. Now that would be really useful about now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:25pm
Could be. It's possible the teacher was over generalizing when she said they were not read to. Clearly, something was missing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:27pm
But what use is that information? Who CARES how he's doing compared to his peers? Especially in the early elementary school years, but even later, beyond questionable bragging rights?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:27pm
I think you missed a good portion of the conversation. And the slams are completely unnecessary. If you have something coherant and sensible to say, please do so. Otherwise you really dont appear to have any idea what you are talking about here.

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Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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