Rock and a Hard Place

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Rock and a Hard Place
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:45am

There's something on this board that has been bothering me, and I hope I can articulate it.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:34pm
She was showing me the chart so I'd know where my dd fits in with her peers. That is quite appropriate.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:37pm
LOL, then we'd better abandon most of the modern conviences we have around today because EVERYTHING our kids are exposed to affects how the brain wires. As society changes, so does how our kids brain hard wires. Hard wiring is in response to the environment.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-23-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:38pm
LOL, but I agree. We've been changing the way kids brains are hard wired via changes in the environment for a very long time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:32am
I'm curious. How does she know half the kids weren't read to? Did she do a survey before she compiled her who's who chart?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:33am
Sure you can discover that your child is at the top half of the class. And you can discover that w/o the visual aide. And then you'll discover that it truly matters not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:35am
Comparing a child who exels in any area with his age mates in K is not going to give you any valuable information. The only information you need you will receive from your child and the child's teacher. If the child is enjoying school and is progressing no problems. If he is bored and not progressing, then something needs to be done. The comparison to the age mates will not make any difference in that decision making.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:38am
I am absolutely positive that my son has an idea of where he ranks in the class, and I am equally positive that it don't matter to him at all. I would not be pleased to hear my son say he is the smartest in the class - even if he is. I do not encourage boasting or belittling. I assure him that everyone is gifted in some way or another - and he believes that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:40am
Exactly. What a bunch of hooey!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:43am
It is totally inappropriate and serves absolutely no purpose no matter how many times you say it does. It is useful to you to be able to pat yourself on the back in spite of the fact that it is HER ability as opposed to your great parenting - or dc's reading to children. Children are ready to perform when they are ready. The parent's responsibility lies in responding to the child's readiness. My ds is reading at an accelerated level. I certainly do not attribute that to my great parenting and I don't need a misguided teacher to tell me that it is attributable to me. It is simply because he was ready and then was exposed. I could no more of held him back than I could have pushed him ahead.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2003
Thu, 11-27-2003 - 12:44am
>>What purpose would the teacher have in showing me Suzy's report card, when Johnny is my child?<<

Ok, gotcha. I understand your point. But, for me, I'd want to know where my child is in relation to his peers. I don't need to know exactly how his peers are doing (i.e. don't need to see Suzy's report card) but I'd want to know if my DS/DD is advanced, right where they should be or lagging behind. But that's me. If you wouldn't want to know, that's within your rights.

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