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|Tue, 05-06-2003 - 5:19pm|
She commutes 5 hours away. Her dh and kids live in another city. She spends Mon-Thur here, and Fri, Sat and Sun at home. I asked casually, what her dh did. Without batting an eyelash, she said "he stays home with our children." He gave up a career in law to do this. I almost jumped and down, applauding. As anyone who knows me, could attest to. :O)
We discussed how this issue comes up IRL, and I mentioned some of our conversations on this board. And how I advocate a SAHD, if it's for the best of the family.
Her dhs' 40th Birthday is coming up, and she wanted to have a party for him. She mentioned how she really wanted something special to "honor" him for what he does. Then it dawned her the number of moms who do daily what he does, without being honored except for the whole Mothers Day Hallmark Holiday.
But, I found it interesting that even though she is 'going against' the grain so to speak, by having a SAHD, the deep-seeded thinking was still in place. Because he's a man he does something special, as opposed to what society thinks comes (or should come) so naturally to women.
I'm curious, I know there are some posters here who have done the long-distance commute. However, I believe it was the father spending most of the week away. How about mom being gone 4 days? The same? Better? Worse? I've dealt with this woman on a daily basis, regarding some very sensitive issues. She is damn good at what she does, and I believe an asset to the program.
I'm curious, what would you do in this situation? Continue doing what you loved, away from your family, knowing they were in the hands of dad? I can't comment on her income, but I'm presuming it's substantial. At least enough to afford her dh to give up a career in law. And, keep an apartment here.