Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:36pm
Nope. That day will come when she agrees with me! Or posts to me!
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:38pm

Guilt again?

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:49pm

Did you go to public school? Is there really *significant* wasted time during the day at public school? I didn't go to public school and don't recall ever looking out the window while twiddling my thumbs while the teacher's time was monopolized by 1 student. I am the kind who could learn from other's different views and problems grasping a concept if the teacher was explaining it aloud. As in, I don't think any question a student ever asks could possibly be stupid ~ the entire class can learn when one student sees things differently and even wrongly.

I'm having trouble believing the homeschooling parent can do things in "double time." I picture myself trying to HS and I see a bad episode of Wife Swap in my head. Interruptions, laundry to do, cleaning, meals to make, the repair man, disinterested children not listening to me, begging to go outside. Basically, it could be a nightmare if I HS'ed.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:04pm
I can remember being totally bored in math class because I got the concept and 10 students didn't. It's usually not one kid. You can also learn faster with individual attention because whoever is teaching you can focus on your style of learning and how you learn best.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:06pm
I thought I'd add... it would be a nightmare if I homeschooled too. But if someone who is a good teacher and is very organized homeschools... it wouldn't be. I'm just not very organized and I don't enjoy teaching.
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:11pm
You are smart figure it out yourself. I have nothing else to add to it.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:15pm
SAH and WOH has nothing to do with a child being clingy! I sah until recently and my one dd is very clingy and the other is not. It is a child's personality not a mothers work status.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:21pm

I'm pretty familiar with homeschooling and I can tell you that homeschooling is a much more efficient use of time for the majority of students.

I don't think it is necessarily a case of public schools wasting a student's time so much as it is about the institutional nature of public school. Large groups of children being shuffled from one area to the next. Time is spent on pure logistical matters.

Then there is the way the curriculum is presented and the speed with which it is covered. In recent years new math programs pride themselves on their "spiraling" curriculum. That means that every four months or so (or whatever time interval is being used), they repeat a concept already covered. If you are homeschooling and have a student who has mastered the concept, there is no need to keep presenting it. Classroom teachers are rarely given the permission to cut out the spiraling. For some students, the constant repetition of familiar material is quite damaging. Another technique homeschoolers can use that isn't always available to classroom teachers is to pretest out of a unit. That saves a lot of time.

But for the most efficient use of time I would think that homeschooling excels because of the level of differentiation a homeschooling teacher can give to her student(s). (If that isn't already redundant to the stuff I wrote above.)

The people I know who homeschool can get their "schoolwork" done in about three hours (or less) a day. Then their kids can do stuff more in line with their interests. Homeschooing is especially valuable to the parents of gifted children because sometimes it is the only viable option for education.

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:24pm
Having more money saved for the kids' college educations materially improves their long term standard of living.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 3:36pm
I know homeschoolers who use a co-op and take turns teaching so they can continue working. I also know homeschoolers who hire tutors and "governesses" to instruct their children. There are ways to do it.

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