Roles of the parent.
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Roles of the parent.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am |
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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I agree.
I've known several parents who homeschooled and one thing I've noticed is if kids struggle with it, parents don't do it long. It's the kids whom it fits that stay with it, which is fine but people are now using this data to say home schooling is better schooling when that's not what it means at all. It just means it works for a select group of middle income caucasion kids who have involved parents. To compare them to everyone else is simply not right.
These are kids who would do well anyway.
Thanks for posting that.
You know, if I home schooled and my kids didn't do well, I wouldn't go around telling anyone about my home schooling. They could easily be looking only at the success stories. If all you look at is the success stories, anything looks good.
And if a parent has the motivation and resources to homeschool because they think it is better for their kids, then they will most likely make the decision to change plans if something isn't working.
It is definitely a self-selecting and largely self-reporting group.
"Nope. That day will come when she agrees with me! Or posts to me!"
Too funny.
"SAH and WOH has nothing to do with a child being clingy! I sah until recently and my one dd is very clingy and the other is not. It is a child's personality not a mothers work status."
Yep.
How can you be sure?
I think YOU are oversimplifying. You aren't considering the cost of having the SAHP join the workforce. There are some benefits a SAHP provides for a family that override whatever financial benefits might be accrued by adding to a college or retirement fund.
In the case of education, there can be times when what a SAHP does for a family may be more important than the benefit of any "more-flush" college fund. I know the work I do to advocate for my children in the classroom and the choices I make for them education-wise are pretty important and although I am savvy enough to know that I would be advocating for them regardless of my work status because I am a conscientious parent, my ability to "fill in the gaps" for their education and research the options and get them the education I'd like them to have before college is somewhat tied to my availability and time and attention--all which I would not have as much of if I weren't a SAHP.
I spend a lot of my time making sure I have the kind of kids who make it to college and less time worrying about how to pay for it.
But you can work during the day and home school in the evening. Home school during the day and work in the evening, etc. No one has said that anyone could homeschool during their work hours but they can homeschool during their non work hours. In the same way a SAHP would plan her home schooling around the other things in her life she has to do, a WOHP would plan their homeschooling around their schedule.
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