Roles of the parent.
Find a Conversation
Roles of the parent.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am |
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

Pages
I think that goes back to when home schooling was just starting and was solitary. Now it's often more like a parent run school with several families getting together to teach their children.
However, I would have to say that having mom and dad always be the one making your assignments could put you at a disadvantage when you get out into the real world. The child learns to deliver what mom and dad expect. In the real world you need to know how to adapt to what any of several people expect. I think having mulitple teachers, some you don't like, has it's advantages. I learned more about how to get along in life from the teachers I didn't like and whose expectations I had difficulty meeting. Had I only had the same hanful of teachers all my years in school, I would have lost that.
i see what you're saying about co-op....the ymca in indianapolis played house to a lot of homeschool groups from science to p.e. to art and music. a good population at that particular y were homeschooled families too because of this very convenience..this was 5 or 6 years ago and i can only assume it's continuing to grow.
i find homeschool to be a lot like alternative private education (i'm not talking about traditional private like catholic but rather alternates like montessori, walden)....you really can't pin down the reason why you do it but somehow the clique just works.
" rarely could not NOT learn from other curious student's questions."
A definite advantage unique to group education. Others ideas and questions. You are right. We learn a lot by listening to others questions. I'm trying to picture all I would have missed reading Shakespeare or anything else in high school without my classmates ideas and questions to spark my own ideas and questions. Sometimes you don't know what is confusing you until someone else asks a question. Or you might not even realize you have it wrong until they ask.
My daughters go to a school that utilizes learning groups. The groups are encouraged do discuss and stratigize how they will complete an assignment individually. My daugther, who has always had trouble finishing projects, has learned a lot this year from her peers.
***Did you go to public school? Is there really *significant* wasted time during the day at public school?***
I did, and yes- there is. We had 5-7 classes in a given day. The time taken between classes and other transitions (such as homeroom) worked out to an hour a day right there. Then, given that you have about 20-30 kids in a room, if they were worked up about something (football game that night, holiday- *whatever*) you also had to contend with that- something that often ate up at *least* a quarter of the classtime. Then there was the time spent in a small room in an uncomfortable desk without airconditioning trying to get anything done. Seldom happened (that anything was accomplished). There was QUITE a bit of wasted time when I was in public school.
***I'm having trouble believing the homeschooling parent can do things in "double time."***
Considering they're not dealing with things like class changes and other distractions? It's actually quite easy. Frequently homeschooled kids are testing and operating well above their grade level equivalent- what does that tell you? Now, they might do so were they in public school as well- but I have a hard time buying that across the board.
***I picture myself trying to HS and I see a bad episode of Wife Swap in my head. Interruptions, laundry to do, cleaning, meals to make, the repair man, disinterested children not listening to me, begging to go outside. Basically, it could be a nightmare if I HS'ed.***
;) That's part of the beauty *of* homeschooling. The kids most often *want* to learn- they have a greater sense of flexibility and independance, and that often leads them to be very self motivated as far as their education is concerned. Also, if it's a nice day, nothing says that the kids can't just go ahead and *go* outside. After they've run off some energy, they'd be more likely to settle down into their studies. ;) One of *the* best things about homeschooling for the parent and for the child *is* the flexibility. So, Mom can get the kids started on a lesson, let them know she's going to be doing laundry, cleaning, meal prep- whatever, and leave them to it while she takes care of her own business, checking in from time to time to make sure things are going well and they don't have any questions. Or- if the kids are restless, she can take a lesson and make it into a field trip. Say one is working on a history lesson... Rather than limiting themselves to a dry textbook, HSparent can pop the kids into the car and they can all go check out some of the interesting historical areas in their town. It's a lesson *and* it's quality family time all rolled into one LOL ;)
Wytchy
No- it really doesn't. Not if the kids can still attend the college of their choice. If Mom and Dad want to take on a student loan for their kids- or if based on principle they aren't willing to completely pay their child's college education and expect them to pitch in for themselves as well- that's their business and it doesn't affect the children's standard of living one iota.
Wytchy
...That doesn't seem like homeschooling to me- that seems more like a charter school (co-op schooling or whatever).
As for private tutors to cover the whole of ones child's education- unless a woman has an EXCEPTIONALLY well paid job, that's a rather cost prohibitive option, putting it lightly.
Wytchy
I'm just sharing what the homeschooling parents I know have shared with me.
Wytchy
...That may be because money holds ~such~ an importance for you. It's a central theme in almost all of your debates... For some people money is a necessity, yes- but it doesn't mean as much to them as it seems to mean to you. You'd shared a bit about your emotional attachment to money when you equated it to the Seinfeld episode (money= "hand"- remember?) Could it not make sense that for those who do not have such an emotional/power attachment to money that for them it is FAR less and possibly even wholly irrelevant so long as they have enough to meet their necessities and live as they feel comfortable?
Wytchy
What does race have to do with anything?
Wytchy
Pages