Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:01am
Private tutors as an option doesn't necessarily have to be prohibitively expensive. I've seen people with rather ordinary incomes figure out how to do it. For example, one was an elementary school teacher and another was a college professor.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:39am

Yeah, I guess... I'd be really curious as to how one did it though. Not because I think it's impossible, just because I know it would be *alot* more difficult... I know it would *never* work for our situation- not even a chance. Not saying it's impossible for *everyone*- but it's *CERTAINLY* not 'the norm', and I *really* wonder how anyone manages it given the time involvement... Of course, it certainly may work better for those with older kids...

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:46am

... Is that any different than choosing private school?

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:54am

Don't get me wrong, I am NO fan of standardized testing. However, it's really the only across-the-board assessment we have to go by. Public schools don't keep portfolios and follow individual students as well as HS'd parents do with their children, so how else is there to compare? And if it's a good enough tool to assess schools across the nation/district, why isn't it a decent enough tool to assess students abilities in general?

And what is the difference between standardized testing and the SAT/ACT? IMO those are just two more standardized tests that may or may not truly be reflective of a students abilities.

My biggest problems with standardized testing are primarily that it is great for those who 'test well' or are having a good day. It's a horrible assessment method for those who *don't* 'test well' or who *aren't* having a good day. My other issue is that multiple choice fill-in-the-dot answers are rarely a great method of assessment. Questions are often unclear or could, with explained answers from a tester, be applied to more than one answer. Unfortunately with standardized testing one doesn't have the ability to later go to the instructor, explain why one chose a given answer, and have the grading reassessed if the answer makes logical sense.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:58am

That assumes that those in that situation *are* only picking those 'just like them' And while that may be the case in various religious communities, it's certainly not something I've seen around my homeschooling circles. In fact, those that I know go out of their way to *include* diversity.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:02am

I feel sorry for the kids whose parents *don't* feel any sense of accomplishment in regard to them... I don't see how someone who holds *no* sense of accomplishment in regard to their children can be any sort of involved responsible parent. Either that or it seems to me that they'd have issues with depression or association... Either way- not what I'd consider a Good Thing.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:12am

EXACTLY! ;) What is it about sitting in a room with 20-30 other kids *all their own age* and often mostly their own socio-economic status and race prepares a child for the real world? LOL ;)

Wytchy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:20am

***The point, which you missed, is that WOH can claim a benefit for their family in the form of their income whereas SAH cannot claim a special benefit based on their work status.***

Sure they can if it makes a positive difference for their situation. While it may not be a benefit to *YOUR* situation- or the benefit might be outweighed by other downfalls, it may well be a benefit to *THEIR* situation. It's certainly a benefit to *mine* as I've explained multiple times LOL! ;)

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:20am
Ita.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:24am
Homeschoolers are often times(middle school and up) independent learners. My 14 yo dd does her work on her own and I check it when she is done. I could possibly woh and homeschool at the same time with her.

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