Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:34am
How about affording music lessons, sports teams or other extracurricular activities for the children? Vacations?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:37am
And in your particular family's case, I would agree that your children are better off with you as a SAHP than socking money away from your own individual earnings in their college accounts.

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:45am
ITA and that is one of the reasons I wanted to return to work. When my girls were babies, things were so much cheaper. It seems that the older they get the more expensive they get. My oldest wants soccer camp this summer and that alone is $350 dollars! They both want to start an instrument and that is expensive. I could not have done all this plus save the way we want to and not return to work.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:45am

"I can, however, say that, most of the time, WOH matters because of the income mom brings in."


If the working parent is bringing in $300,000 a year,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:48am
It affects the childrens' standard of living if they have to work of lot of hours while they're in college, or they graduate with a large debt burden, doesn't it?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:50am
It might.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:52am

"It's a horrible assessment method for those who *don't* 'test well' or who *aren't* having a good day."


So? Your kids might be having a bad day the day they interview for their dream job, too.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:00pm
I think the benefit is in hand picking the teachers, rather than the classmates. I went to a VERY good high school. 92% of graduating seniors go on to 4 year college. But I can see the benefit in being able to control the curriculum and teachers if the local schools aren't so hot.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:01pm

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:03pm

I think you forgot to answer my question there.

She can feel any way she wants to. What is at issue is whether or not her parents take credit for her successes.

On another note, is being an actress really success in life? Actors and actresses are people who need the spotlight on them. I don't really call that success. Just look at their divorce rates. Personally, I will be sad if one of my daughters ends up with an Oscar. I'd rather they have a more genuine life where who they really are matters more than who they can pretend to be.




Edited 3/10/2006 12:04 pm ET by kbmammm

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