Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:05pm
All that matters is how each particular student does. Often times, kids are homeschooled because they are not doing well in regular school. If a particular student is below average while in regular school, but does above average in homeschool, that is the benefit.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:07pm

Well, since I don't actually homeschool and it really isn't that important to me that you accept the time efficiency of the practice, I don't need to debate it. I had a similar attitude to yours about five years ago. Then I met a bunch of homeschoolers and saw what they were doing and now I have a different impression of it all.

I would agree to a certain extent that an education is as good as you make it. That is why I think college students can get an excellent education without having to attend a pricey "brand" university. But at the same time, there are some public schools that are low quality, poorly run, serving a difficult population, that I don't think it is fair to say that the children attending those schools aren't making the most of it. You need to be given at least an adequate base to "make the most" out of, IMO.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:10pm
I think it happens. I can recall being bored out of my mind in Calculus because I got it so quick and most people didn't. If I had been able to work at my own pace in math, I would have been doing something much more difficult than Calculus at 16.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:11pm

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I didn't forget. I just wasn't interested in answering that question.

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If that's what you set out to do, and you do it well ... yeah, I'd say so. Sure, you can screw that up by being a hollywood harlot, or a druggie, etc. But there are plenty (hundreds) of actors and actresses that I would consider a huge success. That are good people, good at their craft, good to others. Of course they're a success. (Tom Hanks, Reese Witherspoon, Meryl Streep, Dustin Hoffman, Susan Lucci ... just a few that come to mind.)

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:15pm
So? I didn't say the extra income is wholly irrelevent for everyone. I said for many families it would be. If they can afford all that stuff on one income, how would they benefit from the second?
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:21pm
I agree. I *hope* my kids go to community college for their first 2 years. Why? Because IME, lower division courses at 4 yr colleges and universities are pretty dismissive. Most of my lower division courses at university had 300+ students in them, and you had no contact with the professor. The classes I have taken at CC have been small, and you can actually discuss the content with the professor and other students in class. My teachers have been fabulous. My philosophy and ethics teacher had been an executive at American Express, and knew the Dalai Llama (sp?) personally. My business law teacher was a night court judge. My current english teacher wrote the textbook for the class, and wrote the online curriculum that is now used at over 500 schools. I don't think you get the same level and quality of education at large 4 yrs for lower division that you do in upper division.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:27pm
So why didn't your math teacher or high school guidance counsellor or your parents get you into math classes at a community college?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:28pm
It's acceptance speech decorum to thank a long list of people. I'm sure her parents are very proud of her and I'm also sure they accomodated her childhood interest in acting in every way they could. However, this Oscar is not one of her parents' accomplishments, not even in a small part. It is 100% hers.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:28pm
There are better alternatives to large 4 year universities than community colleges.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:48pm
Don't know. I just don't think it's uncommon for a student to be bored in the classroom.

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