Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:25pm

Ahhh ;) Gotcha ;) Yes- I'd agree with that. But still- what of those dual WOHP's who *could* pay for their children's education but choose not to, believing that their children working to pay for it or being financially responsible for their education will make them more appreciative of it and take it more seriously? Do you disagree with that POV?

Wytchy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:26pm

Misspoke there but this is what I'm addressing.

"Because homeschooling 6 more children is basically doing the same thing."

It's not the same thing. Not even close.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:26pm
my daughter is a sohpmore this year and most of the kids in her math class are seniors. there is alot of mixing of grades, but then we are a small school - if someone wants to take spanish 3 there isnt a spanish 3 class for every grade there is one. while i agree they are all relatively the same age, there is alot of difference between a 15 year old and an 18 year old.
personally i dont think public school, private school or homeschooling necessarily prepares kids for the real world - you want to get prepared for the real world you go out into the real world. our classes are just alot different than what you describe, the kids dont spend all day sitting in a desk, they do go into the world and i guess unlike alot of people i think kids can learn alot of valuable things from peers. just because they are peers doesnt mean they all think alike, have the same background or expereinces or have unique insights into different subjects
Jennie
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:28pm

I don't know- as that's our plan too. But some seem to think that by making their children be primarily financially responsible for their education that they will somehow be more appreciative of the opportuity and take it more seriously. IMO I think that would depend A LOT on the individual child/student, but...

Wytchy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:29pm
it was the only thing i could think of to the post i was responding to
Jennie
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:30pm

Personally I think most of it has to do with socioeconomic status. I'd be willing to bet that if studies compared whites and minorities who were equal in socioeconomic status in quality schools that there would be NO difference.

Wytchy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:35pm
Sure, the Oscar is 100% hers. But she can acknowledge that she might not have even been an actress at all if her parents hadn't done some of the things they did. And, in this instance, she specifically thanked her grandmother for introducting her to the music of Johnny Cash ... which played a significant part in her getting the role.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:36pm
but it is not only kids who are homeschooled who get to go to gettyburg and expereince it first hand with their family. you can attend public school and volunteer at a homeless shelter or a food bank - in fact or high school works to replenish our local food bank twice a year. public school really is so much more than just sitting at a desk reading a book, hearing a lecture and then taking a test
Jennie
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:37pm

"I stand by what I said. WOH does matter, SAH does not."

And I stand by what I said, it is militant to state that one rather than both matter.

You can state anything you want wrt to your *own* family.

However, it is militant for you make a statement wrt to *all* families.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:38pm
No. I'm simply not able to form into words my thoughts ... not able to express them in a way that would make any real sense to anyone. Also, I wasn't involved in that section of the debate ... the question really doesn't pertain to my role/interest in this thread.

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