Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:45pm

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I see it exactly the opposite.

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Or if the public school sucks. Or if you learn in differently than the curriculum teaches. Or, or, or ...

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:47pm

Have you ever acted?

You can ahve the best actress in the world, but if she's directed by a crappy director, or is acting opposite a bumbling idiot ... then she can't excel. Others play a HUGE role in the success of a particular actor/role.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:48pm

It goes in more than one way.

Mondo

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:50pm
For some, working, even lots of hours, during college is a huge plus.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:53pm

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My public high school did and does.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:55pm

I won't strive for it. Why? Because I worked throughout college and it added as much to the experience for me as anything else I did during college. I gained immense amounts of knowledge, responsibility, maturity, friendships, self-confidence, self-awareness, etc while working in college. Having to pay a good chunk of my own way made me a much better person (better than I would have been with a free ride ... not better than anyone else).

Will that hold true for everyone? No. But I'll hold that as an option for my kids, in case they are the kind that will benefit from it like I did. (and their father did .. and dh did ...)

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:00pm
Wonderful post. You've said it wonderfully (if not grammatically correct! *grin*)
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:12pm

What they need to do is come up with a better way of funding than property taxes.

Wytchy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:21pm

>>Or if the public school sucks. Or if you learn <<
see..that's why i believe a child is much more accountable for his success than the school....ever.

p.s. i just visited both of my girls for lunch this morning. i couldn't get over how well behaved they and a few of their classmates were. sitting properly, eating quietly....the ones who couldn't sit still, the ones throwing food and getting yelled at are the same trouble makers who can't sit still, finish early and cause disruption in the classroom. school is simply an institution for kids to learn. in a perfect world, i vision an ugly run down school with college educated teachers adn well behaved kids who want to learn.

 

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:21pm
My kids are people with whom I have relationships, not projects I am responsible for.

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