Roles of the parent.
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Roles of the parent.
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am |
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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***What is my accomplishment? Being an active involved parent or how my children turn out? Being an active involved parent is my accomplishment. How my kids turn out is theirs.***
Being an active, involved parent is your accomplishment. How your children turn out is *partially* your accomplishment, because they'd have built their own accomplishment from the guidance and attention that you'd given them but yes- ultimately how they turn out is their choice. But that doesn't mean you had absolutely nothing to do with it. Sure, kids from great parents can turn out badly, BUT it's far less -likely- than if their parents were "bad parents".
***And they may not get it if it's handed to them on a silver platter.***
Right. But you'd said that if they don't get it one way, they'll get it another. I just said that isn't necessarily true.
***If I were not here to buy my daughter art supplies, she would not stop drawing. She'd find something else. As long as no one berrates her for drawing or forbids her to do it, she's probably going to draw. She once drew on her fathers car with a rock, lol. When a child is predisposed to something, they will do it.***
Right- but an active, involved parents encouragement and support goes a long way toward how far they take that predisposition and their future attitudes toward it, IMO. Her accomplishment is her drawing- your accomplishment is being supportive of her talent.
What I disagree with is merely the idea that it is somehow wrong for a parent to attach ANY sense of accomplishment to their children in ANY way, shape or form. You'd said "Being an active involved parent is my accomplishment." If indeed you do view this as an accomplishment, as you say here, then that IS, in fact, attaching a sense of accomplishment to your children- in that you could not be an active, involved parent if you didn't have them (your children). Therefore it is connected in a very clear way, shape and form.
Wytchy
What I am trying to get across there is that teaching is teaching. Yes- it's 6 different things, but trying to do that at the same time is FAR more similar than trying to teach one and do something totally different. It's like me trying to make three different meals in the kitchen at the same time- that's far more similar and easier than me trying to make one meal *and* cut the grass or take a shower at the same time. Make sense?
Wytchy
***but it is not only kids who are homeschooled who get to go to gettyburg and expereince it first hand with their family.***
The key phrase there being 'with their family'. This is not generally a part of the public school experience.
***you can attend public school and volunteer at a homeless shelter or a food bank***
Sure- but I'd be shocked to find a public school that does hands on volunteering at theiter of these places. They may do food drives etc. but the students don't experience first hand how these places operate or the people that they serve. Unless we're again talking of the experience being a family thing and not associated with the school.
Wytchy
Interesting. I've never seen a public secondary school that did that. Frankly I think it's a fabulous idea, but one that I've just never seen put into practice in reality.
Wytchy
"Then what is your argument?"
My argument is that it is militant for you to make statements wrt to *all* families.
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