Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:45pm

You don't consider yourself responsible for your children? Interesting. IMO parenting is a huge responsibility, and yes- very much an ongoing project. I agree, my children are also people with whom I share relationships, but as I am in a position of authority over them and responsible for raising them, I'd have to say they are also much more than that and my role in their upbringing is something that I can consider a project that I can take pride in and enjoy a sense of accomplishment regarding.

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:02pm
but does it have to be with the family to be of value? i go on field trip with my daughters all the time, is that considered with the family? our high school sends kids to the convent every day, they help in the kitchen, they visit with the sisters, they help in the laundry, it really depends on what class you are taking. our 8th graders took a trip to washington dc, a group of our high school students are taking a week long trip to costa rico to expereince that first hand, next week we have a group going to a leadership conference. your ideas about public school and what i am seeing in our school just dont mesh, and our school is very small, i would think larger schools would offer even more.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:06pm

"How does SAH matter to your child?"

I asked my dd this very question. Her response:

"Well," she said holding out both of her hands as if she were weighing two items on a scale, "If I could have more time or more money....I'd choose more time."

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:12pm
Public schools don't keep portfolios and follow individual students - that is not the case at our school. every test (not quiz) and every paper my daughter has written since she started at this school in 8th grade is in a portfolio at school. i know this because she wanted to have her 10th grade english teacher look at a paper she had written in 9th grade and he was able to go and pull it out of the file and look at it with her.
Jennie
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Registered: 08-09-2004
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:16pm

What's wrong with that? Do you think fathers cannot be trusted to stay home and care for their own children?

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:18pm

***but does it have to be with the family to be of value?***

The point was that these things are very seldom associated with the public school. They are done outside of the school with someone else- family or *whomever*.

*** our high school sends kids to the convent every day, they help in the kitchen, they visit with the sisters, they help in the laundry, it really depends on what class you are taking.***

IMO and experience private school is often VERY different from public school.

***our 8th graders took a trip to washington dc, a group of our high school students are taking a week long trip to costa rico to expereince that first hand, next week we have a group going to a leadership conference.***

These things don't often occur in relation to a public school.

***your ideas about public school and what i am seeing in our school just dont mesh***

What public school sends children to the convent? If you're speaking of a Catholic school, then that is a private, not a public, school.

***and our school is very small, i would think larger schools would offer even more.***

Yes- I would think that private school *would* often have opportunity to offer more.

Wytchy

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:19pm

"If the working parent is bringing in $300,000 a year,

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:26pm
my kids are in public school. i believe i know if our school is public or private - and yes, our public school sends kids to the convent every day. and our little public school offers these wonderful expereinces to our public schooled kids.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:35pm
But teaching 6 different things takes six times the time. That is what you are not getting.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:36pm

There are some economies of scale ... However, it is by no means the same effort for one kid as for six.

And in the public school system, you actually get diseconomies of scale.

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