Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:34pm

I don't think it's that easy to transfer from a jr college to the kind of private schools I think she's talking about. Maybe she meant something different, but contacts are one of the reasons I've heard given for why going to a private school is an advantage.

I went to a big university for college, and I didn't meet anybody who became a mover or shaker there (at least not that I can think of), but I went to a top law school, and many of my classmates are now judges, politicians, etc. Not that it matters to me, but for people who are very ambitious, those kinds of contacts can be a big deal. Think George Bush and his cronies meeting up at Yale.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:35pm

<> How so? I think that is more true of a public education than it is of a homeschool education. With homeschooling the student is free to work in his/her own areas of interest and at his/her own pace. The student can also be taught in a way that he/she is more able to learn.

You really don't see any other disadvantages to public schools than inability to sit still, wait or cooperate? What about peer pressure, bullying, large class sizes, etc? Ftr, I have nothing against a public school education. My kids will go to public school for high school.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:36pm

I was just the opposite. I had to work a lot through college and I understand it made me more responsible but I sure wish I could have enjoyed college more. I remember one summer wanting to go to S. America to help with an outreach program through my University and I couldn't b/c I had to work.

I just want my children to get the most out of college without worrying about how they are going to get enough money for college.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:37pm
Yep.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:40pm
How do you know parents are teaching THEIR views? I teach from textbooks. I don't necessaily share the same views of the books I use.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:41pm

There was an episode of Daria about those schools.

She was

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:41pm
Ours has about 250 ... 9-12. English, history and a few other classes were decided by year. As were the first two years of math and science.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:44pm
That's why I'm having BOTH as options for my kids. We'll have enough money set aside to send them to any reasonable school (Harvard is out ... lol). However, we're not going to blanketly give them that money. If they're the type to want to work and get a huge benefit from it, like xh and I did ... then they'll do that. If they're the type to really need to concentrate solely on school, etc .. then they'll be able to do that.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:46pm
That makes sense. I guess having the option would make it their choice. I never had the choice.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 5:48pm
I didn't either.

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