Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:04pm
Some kids would take it seriously no matter what - and taking on financial responsibility just limits them.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:05pm

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The ole, "I've seen it, you haven't, so there's no way you can possibly understand it" argument. I hope you don't think that's persuasive.

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I'm not sure what you meant by "pricey" or "brand."

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:08pm

I think that race nd SES tend to track together in our educational system. White kids in poor SES areas/school also do not do well and minority students in majority white/higher SES schools do better.

But since the vast majority of schools are funded locally and attendance is tied to where a kids lives, children born in poor SES areas have no choice but to attend schools with fewer resources, lower quality teaches (mondomom's point above) etc.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:09pm
That is a very risky choice. I met people in college who transferred as Juniors. They had a very hard time meeting people and making friends. At that point, everyone had already spent 2 years bonding and didn't "need" new friends.
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Registered: 01-04-2005
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:10pm

Times are not like what has been portrayed about what times were. You are harkening back to mythology. There was a short period in the whole of human existence where women were at home for the sole purpose of "raising" children and that generation turned out the baby boomers of the 60's who inspired the sexual revolution and and the counter cutural movement connected to illicit substances.

I would suggest that while you are taking those college courses you spend some time over in the history department learning what truly was and not what 5th Avenue and Madison Avenue market times were.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:10pm
Oh don't be so hard on actors and actresses. I'm not saying they *deserve* the kind of money some of them make, but acting and performing is an art and a craft. Being excellent at acting is just as valid as being excellent at myusic, art, literature, etc.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:11pm

It is obvious from your statements that you don't know much about educating our brighter students. There is quite a bit of "damage" that can occur when students are presented with material they have already mastered or the material is presented in too slow a manner.

If not falling behind is of the upmost importance to you, you must be a big fan of No Child Left Behind.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:15pm

So what constitutes a failure as a parent (except the easy response of neglect/abuse/indifference etc)? A child that doesn't go to college? Has a child out of wedlock? Is unhappy?

If a parent should feel proud of their accomplishment for raising "good" children, what do they feel when their children struggle, suffer, or fail? Is that struggle or failure the fault of the parent?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:18pm
But weren't you also saying in another thread that the expectations were suprisingly low for your English class?? Are you assuming that is trus of *all* lower level English classes?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:20pm
Generally speaking, though, there is a "pecking order" to college instruction. While a few professors may purposefully choose a CC level at which to instruct, most are there because they were not successful or could not compete at larger institutions.

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