Roles of the parent.

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Roles of the parent.
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 3:29am
I think in the old days men use to tell women the what to do, or what not to do. Today we let other women tell us what is right for us. I have never seen two situations that are the same in any relationship. The roles are changing as we type right now. Women use to think it was worth it to spend as much time at home with their children as time would give them. However, that is not the case today. It is all very sad if you ask me because you have some men that are saying "I will stay home for the kids", and at the same time the women opt not too.I have three girls, the oldest is 8 and the youngest is 3 months , each child has a four yr space. Some parents need duel incomes. I think as children get older it is okay to get work outside the house, but as they are growing and learning new things I would like to see that for myself if I can. I have another year of college and then I will have to work, and I am not looking forward to it. The idea of being away from my children is scary to me. I find it hard to even let them go outside and play. However, I am getting better with it. Both my parents worked, and I recalled how much I wanted to be with my mom. I would have been happy just to go to Walmarts with her, but she never really had the time. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but what is the need of the family? Can a family make it on one check? That depends on the location, the home, car, and the life style that the parents want to have. Some could say if you want to be safe, you both have to pay because safe comes with a high price tag. Others could say different. The truth is stay at home moms are on the downfall due to the different types of families today. Is it bad or good, I do not know. However, I can tell you it is life.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:42pm
There is room for both. I say yes, Reese Witherspoon has made a success of her career. That doesn't have anything to do with whether or not John Hall or Barry Marshall or Dan Kochensparger or Allen Apblett have also made a success of themselves. There is room for accolades for all.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:42pm

I don't disagree. Most tenure requirements mean that professors must excell at something in addition to teaching - research, publishing, etc. I know or even know of very few grad students that were going through their programs with the express intent of only teaching (ie a non-research, 4-year college-type position). The vast majority were planning on tenure-track positions but many ended up taking on mostly teaching positions as they experienced less success in their post-doctoral work. For some, it was a great fit but it was not necessarily their first choice.

I think the demographics of CC proffesors are probably varied; but many end up there as the result of changes in career plans as opposed to those positions being their goal in the first place.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:43pm

I'd rather do both.

Of course, that still doesn't address the fact that what actors do isn't easy.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:44pm
I think there is great value in entertainment. I prefer classical music, but it's all in the same vein. I can't imagine my life without music, and I'm sure there are people who feel the same way about movies.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:45pm

I don't even feel like I have a "class". I started my undergrad at a small private college as a sophmore and then transfered to a state U for my jr and senior years and then I graduated in Dec instead of May. I've never been to reunions or to any alumni functions.

It does seem to me listening to my boss and some of his contemporaries that they have a very strong class identity.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:48pm
I think that's kind of weird. I started at a 4yr University, but I never felt that way. I am still friends with some people from that time, and they don't feel that either. My dad does, he went to UCLA. He also was in a fraternity.. maybe that's it? My school didn't have that, or a football team. They're "against" that sort of thing... LOL
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:49pm
Not all movies are Legally Blonde, you know. Ever see 21 grams? *That* was an amazing work of art.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:51pm

Your standards are higher than your professors? But you are still very happy with your experience?

I did get that you were talking about a college-level english class.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:55pm

I meant "class identity" as in Class of 72, not SES.

I have only 1 friend from college that I am still in touch with. I think I skipped somthing...

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:57pm
I am happy with the quality of my instructors. I think that these days a lot of the students are pretty... well I don't want to say stupid, but maybe that's what I mean. In comparison to other students, my standards are high. But I didn't feel any different when I was in similar classes at a 4 yr University.

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